"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This may be kidish but I need help

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Sup fellas. I have been a strugglin AFC for some time now, and like a strugglin AFC, I am surrounded by other AFCs as well. The guys I'm surrouned by are AFC's to the max one has never had a girlfriend yet has supper high standard. Another one, the one who gets the most girls, only lands them because of his looks but quickly scares them off cause of his personality.

Their straight up losers, (even though with my resume I shouldn't judge) but I'm trying to change my life. These guys have no drive whatsoever being on and off foodstamps, a couple go to college with me and all we do is stay in each other's room. I've tried to get them to go out but they don't want to which makes me not want too.

So I want to cut them off and just not talk to them anymore, I still like acouple of them but I don't want to be held back. But it's hard starting all over at college again; eating by yourself, trying to find parties by yourself and showing up to them by yourself. I"m not the best person at making friends for some reason. I'm not an *******, but most people usually bore me even these guys I've been around been boring me for the last year or so. I want to find a group of Dj's or just some more social guys.

So is there an advice on how to go about that or on my situation?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gustav Yavo

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lol, how are they holding YOU back. it sounds like you are blaming them for your girl pick up problems. Everyone is in charge of themself, you think if you just change your friends your automatically just gonna get more poon? WRONG! its what you do. Plus i dont think you should just ditch your friends, they may be boring you now, but you are calling them FRIENDS for a reason, so they cant be all bad. Trust me, picking up girls is all about YOU, having more social friends or better looking, or dj friends will prolly just get in your way of becoming a dj, cause they will be the ones picking up the girls while you have your **** in you hand (although if very observant it might help you, but you dont have to have dj friends to observe dj's). Read the forums, learn the techniques and apply them in real life, its the only way to learn, dont rely on other people as a crutch.

happy hunting!
 

muscleman

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To add to what Gustav said, friends in general aren't really necessary. I know a lot of people, but no one that I hang out with on a regular basis. It would get boring, at least for me. It's also an issue of time - would you rather be out getting drunk with a bunch of dudes or (which is cool sometimes, I agree) or bonin some hb you just met?
 

Leporello

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Join some clubs or other college groups.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tookie

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Thanks. Your right I think I am shifting blame, even if it is just a little bit I need to refocus. Becoming a DJ is a path I must walk alone I assume.
 

Interceptor

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Took,
how old are you. and what are your goals in life?

have you formulated and written out your Mission in life yet?

What are you doing daily to improve and build a better life for yourself?
 
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