Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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this is why i despise 99% of single mothers

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i had to share this with everyone, it just burns me up. it doesn't effect me one bit...well yeah it does, but i'll get to that in a sec. this girl i know, acctually we dated for about 3 months back in the day before i came to learn she was bat sh!t crazy and a hoe. anyways, this wh0re couldn't have this guy she liked, so the rumor is she got pregnant by him on purpose. i don't know if that's true or not, but i wouldn't put it past her. so she has the kid, and the guy denies that it's his yada yada yada. i can't blame him really, i wouldn't want to be stuck with this girl the rest of my life either. this girl use to be pretty dog gone hot, but now is a disgusting whale to put it gently. i honestly think she weighs 280 from the hoof. her belly hangs out of her shirt and her feet are so fat, they barely fit in her shoes. i get a little sick just by looking at her now. shes that fat! well today she dna came back and the dude is the father. her comment? "i finally got his ass. payday for me!". not one care about the kid, just worried about her monthly check she'll be getting for the next 18 years. oh and btw, this mother of the year only works one day a week as a waitress.lol she is about as good a mom as i am. my dog could do a better job raising this child i think. it constantly cries no matter what, always something wrong with the child. it stays sicks i think. i just couldn't beleive the comment she made to someone i know who told me. i wonder how many other single moms are out their having kids just to get a pay check? and they wonder why decent single guys don't want to waste their time with them....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Robert28 said:
i wonder how many other single moms are out their having kids just to get a pay check? and they wonder why decent single guys don't want to waste their time with them....
More than you think. But then again I try not to feel bad for guys that don't use condoms EVERY FRIGGIN TIME/DON'T PULL OUT, and that go out with trashy women that have mental issues. I only feel bad for the kids.
 

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On the issue of condoms, never use the girl's condoms. Always use your own condoms and never let her put it on for you, put that sh!t on yourself.
 

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:crackup: Mwahaha, You five ONE example of a bad single mom and now you think they're all like that. How bad with statistics are you? :confused:
 

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Guoy Darko said:
:crackup: Mwahaha, You five ONE example of a bad single mom and now you think they're all like that. How bad with statistics are you? :confused:

no, they pretty much all suck. this i know. keep fooling yourself if you wish and you'll be raising someone elses one night stand baby in no time.lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I know a woman who has 3 kids by 3 different guys. She doesnt really know who the father of one of the kids really is! She doesnt get a "check" from any of them. So much for those female tactics. Backfire.
 

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You guys should just all become gay. :) Men are just perfect aren't they?
 

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Guoy Darko said:
You guys should just all become gay. :) Men are just perfect aren't they?

yep, we are:D
 

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1. when i was 21 i was banging this married chick who was a few years older than me. she was so ****ing bat **** crazy she was mad because i was dating other women. b!tch you are married! Anyway, one day she had this new "special" condom she wanted ot use one day... comes to find out she poked holes in it and got pregnant.

i had to go to her husband and explain what was going on and we both talked some sense into her


2. my little 23 year old cousin is going for the lifetime whoring award. 4 kids 4 baby daddies
 

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Guoy Darko said:
:crackup: Mwahaha, You five ONE example of a bad single mom and now you think they're all like that. How bad with statistics are you? :confused:
How worse are you with statistics? Don't you know exceptions don't invalidate a rule? With possible partial exception of widows, the overwhelmingly predominate rule is single mommies are single mommies because of inherent adversive character flaws, piss poor decision-making skills, with their own set of complications to deal with (inclusive of widows), or else they wouldn't be single mommies.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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single mothers aren't single mothers becuase of their pristine decision making skills.

i've seen single mothers make some of the most bat**** crazy decisions

you know now that i really think about it, feminism is a mofo. it really is.

I remember, back when I was deep into AA, there was a woman there that I really looked up to and I still do. Anyway she had made some mistakes in the past, had 3 kids but all of them were grown now and out the house. anyway, there was this chick who used to hang out with me all the time.. nothing was there at least from my end but we hung out she was my buddy.

She was what...3 years older than me, and was going to school to be an archaeologist, she had a kid and was a single mother, dad was a meth using loser... the older woman who i looked up to had been nudding me to try to develop "more of a friendship" (i.e date) this chick and while we never went on dates..we did go out to eat quite a few times after meetings and ****. anyway, i remember her telling me how you can't use "normal society standards to judge someone".. I had caused quite an uproar when I told them pretty bluntly that i would never consider dating a single mother even if I were single which I wasn't. why? Seriously why?

Truth be told, she had a bangin ass body, true thoroughbred in that department and she was a natural red head and becuase all the guys for the most part in the whole AA click wanted to get in her pants they would agree with it all, even pamper to her kid, tell her that hey it's okay that you are almost 30 with a kid and you will try to put that off on everyone else.


I remember one day we went out to eat after a meeting and she really was dancing around the issue of why "certain men she likes don't like her back".. i wanted to say babe do you really not know the answer?

Somehow she actually started to believe the crap that she was spewing. No you aren't on the same playing field as someone who is the same age and doesn't have kids. I'm sorry, that's why they make condoms, use them.

who you are and where you are is nothing but of a relection of the things you are done. You don't get a get out of *****ing free card just because you are half cute.

What I despise more than single mothers is the guys that put up with the **** single mothers spew out in the effort to get *****. it's no different than going to a drug house and pampering to the D-boy because he has the dope.
 

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The problem is going to be the kids. I'm pretty traditional on family matters and think nobody should have kids outside of marriage. I'm willing to grudgingly accept it if it's a case of a couple that is not married, but the father is still there and taking care of the kid. I at least accept it more than AWOL fathers.

As the saying goes, if you want to sell so much as a hot dog from a street cart, you need a license from the government. Yet any moron can have a kid.

There's a reason why like 95% of prison inmates grew up with no daddy around.
 

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There's a multitude of reasons why a women become single mothers. Some of them are manipulative bytches who will work the system in their favor. Others will have a failed relationship / marriage, some will have just 'gone with the flow' and let the man take the lead - even if he had no clue he was taking the lead. There are a few who've had their kids' fathers die.

You can't judge a single mother solely based on the fact that her kid(s) have no father. If you're going to date single mothers, use discretion.
 

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Desdinova said:
There's a multitude of reasons why a women become single mothers. Some of them are manipulative bytches who will work the system in their favor. Others will have a failed relationship / marriage, some will have just 'gone with the flow' and let the man take the lead - even if he had no clue he was taking the lead. There are a few who've had their kids' fathers die.

You can't judge a single mother solely based on the fact that her kid(s) have no father. If you're going to date single mothers, use discretion.
no one is talking about judging in the sense of are they good or bad people.e. we are talking about judging as far as viable dating options. fther getting killed in a car accident or not, women without kids are less baggage than single mothers.
 

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99% bull$hit, there's many an aszhole guy who bailed and made some kids momma a single mom! Stop the hating.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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backbreaker said:
no one is talking about judging in the sense of are they good or bad people.e. we are talking about judging as far as viable dating options. fther getting killed in a car accident or not, women without kids are less baggage than single mothers.
Not so, often they realise they arent an A1 proposition and are more accomodating.
 

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englishman said:
99% bull$hit, there's many an aszhole guy who bailed and made some kids momma a single mom! Stop the hating.

and that has to do with the mind games 99% of single mothers play because.....?
 

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Robert28 said:
anyways, this wh0re couldn't have this guy she liked, so the rumor is she got pregnant by him on purpose. i don't know if that's true or not.
You don't know anything about the situation between this couple. You stated that there was a rumour and that you didn't know if it was true or not. Then the DNA test showed that the guy was the father, and you posted that she's a wh0re.
 

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99% bull$hit, there's many an aszhole guy who bailed and made some kids momma a single mom! Stop the hating.
This still shows poor judgement on the women.
Just like a man marrying a low quality woman.

You would think a woman would really SCREEN a man before she had a kid with him.

Unfortunately, most women are not that smart.
If you play with a snake and you get bit, you're a dumba$$ and the snake is just a snake.
 

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
If you play with a snake and you get bit, you're a dumba$$ and the snake is just a snake

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WTF does that mean? so your c0ck is now a snake and if she plays with your c0ck and it erm... bites her then it's her fault?

So if women put out then there wh0res and if they dont then there b1tches, and if by having sex they become pregnant then there wh0res who are b1tches that just got bitten by a snake and deserve it for not being pain in the asz screeners?????
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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