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This seems like a good balance of efforts - SHE initiates contact, YOU ask her out.
No one person is doing the chasing, you are BOTH chasing/pursuing each other, in different ways.
That's the best imo, and yeah keep us updated!
I think it's more me leading and her chasing/pursuing right now, and it's how it should be.
She puts in effort to contact, you make dates to reward her for her efforts. It's when the guy has to seemingly do all the work that you know she is only with you until something better comes along.
Which I've never understood...I've been with a couple chicks where clearly that was what was going on but they still would see me regularly and fvck me all the time(although tbh, they got the better end of that deal by a longshot) until one day they just basically said someone else "reentered" their life and they were going to see where things went with them. One of them I basically dumped because she gave me no other real option if I wanted to keep my self respect, the other one did it to me. I've often wondered if my skills in the bedroom helped prolong it versus being a few times and done.
So the question...why bother dating for several months with someone you aren't really interested in?
I think some people (read: women) can't stand being by themselves. For them it's best to be with someone, even if there isn't much interest, than being alone.
This is why a lot of people cheat too. I think it's called 'monkey-branching'.
I met a girl last year, who was in a relationship with a guy. I only found out about it when he showed up.
I didn't want anything serious with her, even before I found out the BF.
She told me how she wanted to end it with him, that she had even mentioned to him that she had met someone, and offered an open relationship.
A lot of people are like this, unfortunately.