"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This **** is ****ing up my mindset. There is something weird about my face.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lol it's not your face, it's your brain

same thing used to happen to me too, but the only person who saw it was me, nobody else....

same way with you, im sure of it.

its your mood that day effecting your self image... it's hard to knock it off but it's very possible

i used to think "its how you carry yourself" was a bs answer and it's a problem i cant change. but it's the truth....

everybody has bad days so dont worry about it

if anything in your face changes, it's probably your facial expression from how u feel
 

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yeah.. happened to me all the time... One day im ****ing cute.. dessing up nice ..felling good... the next i m why do i look so ugly.. and unattractive...
 

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i notice that when i dress well, go to the tanning beds and the bags under my eyes are not noticeable girls seem to give me more atention, so i dont think its 100% the mindset, the way your portray yourself counts, looking good, well dressed, a good cologne helps a lot
 

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haha.....tanning beds.... you're kidding right
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EWW

Tanning beds? Are you *trying* to age faster? I agree with dressing nice and getting hair styled. I strongly advise sunscreen when *forced* to endure the age-appearance excelerating process of exposure to sun.
 

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Re: EWW

Originally posted by everywomanshero
Tanning beds? Are you *trying* to age faster? I agree with dressing nice and getting hair styled. I strongly advise sunscreen when *forced* to endure the age-appearance excelerating process of exposure to sun.
not to mention the homo factor
 

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Well the knew guy, I really think you should go into your mommas pantie drawer and play dress up, seeing yourself in her full length mirror wearing your moms clothes can only show you how stupid your really thinking. Of course your just going to think me teasing you is stupid, and you could learn a few lessons about stupid, I can tell from all the questions you keep asking.

This thread would have been perfect if you came online and said thanks to thederreckeffect1 right away. Would have been PERFECT, you'd have DrBeard come on here, make a NICE joke, Pook would sign in, and tell you how to be a real man, fingz would come back, for the umpeenth time, and tell you to stop turning your weapons of mass seduction upon yourself. You might have been the 149th messiah of Sosuave. Dude, grow up, we're all waiting for you.
 

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Originally posted by The Knew Guy
i know you guys are gonna laugh, but this **** is serious.

sometimes im good looking, sometimes im average, and sometimes im just butt ugly. and im always taking care of myself. seriously, something in my face changes and i look different.

sometimes ill go out and get hit on (girls would cold approach me in clubs), and at other times i wont so much as get a look from one girl (unless shes ugly as **** and 6 inches taller than me).

so at the time period when im ugly, how do i stop that from ****ing up my mindset?
its hard, it hurts to be so freakin ugly.

and now im sarging this girl i met online but talk to on the phone, and when we meet shes gonna expect a hot guy (cause i took them on my hot phases), and shes gonna see some ugly guy and be like WTF.

im sure most people dont have this problem. i could use some advice.
There is no period of ugliness. You get hit on on some days more than others for two reasons: you changed what you wear or how you do your hair or something, or if not, then it's luck of the draw. The pickup arena is not a videogame; it's gambling. All we can do is increase our odds of winning.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by The Knew Guy
that wasnt helpful. i understand the concept of "tough love," and i completely support it, but some of us are trying to work on our inner game. something as simplistic as "ah get over it and be a man" is just not gonna help (im assuming that might be what you were trying to do). you cant just tell someone to "just go talk to random girls already" and expect him to be able to do it. some of us have ****ed up inner game. but thats why im here on this forum.................. im working on it.
Respond to me in the appropriate thread, I am all over the place, just check out my profile... The "Just go talk to random girls already" is true, but it's NOTHING what I was talking about. My face was the reason I never got girls when I was young, and I took countless medications to fight it. Nothing worked, no matter how closeley I followed the directions, I went through hell through high school, I was a miserable child, who smiled just because I was TRYING to be as nice as possible. You have no idea how many fights I have run away from, and the number of girls I have approached, and been shot down by, they all gave me the same response... *shudder and turn* they couldn't look at my face, nor my body, I was a 5' 2" pimply faced nerd. I've now changed, I've worn girls underwear, I've beared my nasty scars all over my boidy to the world, I've run down the street naked all that jazz. Sorry if I couldn't convince you I was in the same boat as you, I know what I look like when I get **** faced, it's one of the scariest things in the world, I get beet red, and it looks like my face is made of ****ing playdough, I am a horrible disgrace for man when I am drunk. I've got huge scars on my back, it's pickled with acne, all over, I am one of those grown men, with scars, and active acne.

Guess what, it doesn't stop me, so I'm serious, go to your mom's ****ing pantie drawer, or your sisters, or steal one from some girl, and put it on... than you'll know what you look like at your worst, and ever after, you shouldn't have this problem anymore.

Tough love? I don't think so, i call it the truth.
 

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Originally posted by The Knew Guy
there are no females in this household, and even if there were, that is one of the most absurd ideas i ever heard. i still think youre being sarcastic, but you say that youre serious. i fail to see how wearing panties would solve my inner game problems.
Because you keep lying to yourself, you keep going off saying inside of your head, that you have these problems. You are also telling the world, that you have these problems by not being able to laugh about them, and that you think your problems are worse than theirs. That's inner game to me, it's all about lying to myself.

Wearing panties, it is absurd as long as you keep caring about the way you look and freaking out about it. Girls freak out about it, your supposed to be a guy, and know that it's not a problem. If you want you can go put some make up on and all that, but that is a waste of time too.

I'm not sarcastic about my problem, well, my old problem, I wash my face, and it's as under control as it needs to be, everybody just laughs at me thinking I'm not serious when I say I care anyways. "Oh me, my name used to be pizza face, they call me Jay now" " if my friends are around I point at them and say "those ****ers call me boner" I still got problems with wanting too much social proof, and than falling back onto it when the going gets tough.

Inner game really is nothing, it's just stop telling yourself you don't already know what to do. You will know about something you don't, ask somebody who looks like they don't care, and than accuse them of not knowing about it, they'll get pissed off at you. Voila, you just got your inner game problem answered.

More ranting, somebody has really got to make me stop doing this.
 
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