thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
*smack*
That should fix the problem.
That should fix the problem.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
not to mention the homo factorOriginally posted by everywomanshero
Tanning beds? Are you *trying* to age faster? I agree with dressing nice and getting hair styled. I strongly advise sunscreen when *forced* to endure the age-appearance excelerating process of exposure to sun.
There is no period of ugliness. You get hit on on some days more than others for two reasons: you changed what you wear or how you do your hair or something, or if not, then it's luck of the draw. The pickup arena is not a videogame; it's gambling. All we can do is increase our odds of winning.Originally posted by The Knew Guy
i know you guys are gonna laugh, but this **** is serious.
sometimes im good looking, sometimes im average, and sometimes im just butt ugly. and im always taking care of myself. seriously, something in my face changes and i look different.
sometimes ill go out and get hit on (girls would cold approach me in clubs), and at other times i wont so much as get a look from one girl (unless shes ugly as **** and 6 inches taller than me).
so at the time period when im ugly, how do i stop that from ****ing up my mindset?
its hard, it hurts to be so freakin ugly.
and now im sarging this girl i met online but talk to on the phone, and when we meet shes gonna expect a hot guy (cause i took them on my hot phases), and shes gonna see some ugly guy and be like WTF.
im sure most people dont have this problem. i could use some advice.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Respond to me in the appropriate thread, I am all over the place, just check out my profile... The "Just go talk to random girls already" is true, but it's NOTHING what I was talking about. My face was the reason I never got girls when I was young, and I took countless medications to fight it. Nothing worked, no matter how closeley I followed the directions, I went through hell through high school, I was a miserable child, who smiled just because I was TRYING to be as nice as possible. You have no idea how many fights I have run away from, and the number of girls I have approached, and been shot down by, they all gave me the same response... *shudder and turn* they couldn't look at my face, nor my body, I was a 5' 2" pimply faced nerd. I've now changed, I've worn girls underwear, I've beared my nasty scars all over my boidy to the world, I've run down the street naked all that jazz. Sorry if I couldn't convince you I was in the same boat as you, I know what I look like when I get **** faced, it's one of the scariest things in the world, I get beet red, and it looks like my face is made of ****ing playdough, I am a horrible disgrace for man when I am drunk. I've got huge scars on my back, it's pickled with acne, all over, I am one of those grown men, with scars, and active acne.Originally posted by The Knew Guy
that wasnt helpful. i understand the concept of "tough love," and i completely support it, but some of us are trying to work on our inner game. something as simplistic as "ah get over it and be a man" is just not gonna help (im assuming that might be what you were trying to do). you cant just tell someone to "just go talk to random girls already" and expect him to be able to do it. some of us have ****ed up inner game. but thats why im here on this forum.................. im working on it.
Because you keep lying to yourself, you keep going off saying inside of your head, that you have these problems. You are also telling the world, that you have these problems by not being able to laugh about them, and that you think your problems are worse than theirs. That's inner game to me, it's all about lying to myself.Originally posted by The Knew Guy
there are no females in this household, and even if there were, that is one of the most absurd ideas i ever heard. i still think youre being sarcastic, but you say that youre serious. i fail to see how wearing panties would solve my inner game problems.