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Master Don Juan
Your career is a sigh of relief in the sense it might lower the odds we think you want us as a provider rather than a lover, but in of itself, your career is the size of a small meteorite compared to the personality that is the Earth and the physical appeal that is either Jupiter for guys like me or the Sun for guys like Toad.My personality is top notch. I am fun and smart etc. I don’t care about that. Seriously NO points for job?! I mean I won’t need to mooch, I have money for fun trips, weekends off and 25 paid days off. Doesn’t that count for anything?! I always thought it showed that I am dependable and motivated. Maybe I am projecting though because a mans career is important to me. Not that he makes a lot (that’s just a turn on) but that he has steady employment and has enough money so we can do fun things. I pay half but I will not pay for him. I am devastated with this news! Plus, I like my job and I need it to boost my HB status.
Probably varies by region, my impression of America from this forum is that there are far more tradcon and macho guys there than say where I am, Sweden. America has a bigger and more conservative strand of conservatism than Sweden does. I really don't understand how you could prefer to pay for a woman rather than splitting everything, guys who insist on paying just make me go WTF. It just seems senseless and even pathetic to me. Nor do I desire to be the provider of a housewife, although if she was genuinely appreciative of our life and she really wanted to be a mother, homemaker and perhaps active in the community or whatever, I might - but lean toward not - be OK with it as long as I don't feel like a provider drone and I make enough to facilitate a stressfree life. But certainly not something I'd "desire".You could be a waitress for all I care. No disrespect to that profession. It's definitely projection. I bet if most men on SS had their druthers, they'd have a housewife, or if not married, would prefer the ability to take care of a girl rather than splitting everything. The modern world isn't like that and most men here aren't that wealthy. Of course she would have to reciprocate by being supportive, feminine, etc. I don't know if this is true to a man but that's the impression I get, kind of a male breadwinner setup that used to be a lot more common.
And that kind of provider lifestyle is not at all necessary in Sweden because of our social policies, whereas in America, especially in the more conservative regions, I can see the sheer practical rationale for one parent becoming a full time homemaker once the kids are born since you have zero or very little support for families (and in the self-proclaimed "land of family values" at that, I am trying to hold myself back from openly sneering at). That's something to weigh in as well.
It's just different cultures and different strokes for different folks.
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