"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well i recently started dating this girl and i said i love you ( I know total AFC MOVE) Anyway Is there a way to fix that? And another thing is my friend put her on his top page of myspace and now he wants to meet up with her at a concert and ****..... Yeah I'm starting to think he likes her, anyway she harldey ever writes me **** anymore and dosent really call, i always gotta call her...ask her to hang out and stuff.... Maybe She's Loosing Intrest? Beats Me, This Seems Like It's Going Downhill And I Would Like TO Save It Before We Crash And Burn....Now Should i tell her that i feel shes lost intrest and if she dosent wanna go out then let me know? What Should I Do About This Mess.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sounds like you may have already blown it. You need to inject the feeling that she is losing you to see how she'll respond. Either flake on her, create some jealousy, or take a step back and act aloof. Then see what happens - if she is interested she will pursue, if not you've learn some valuable lessons for the next girl you meet.

Oh don't even think of trying this: "Now Should i tell her that i feel shes lost intrest and if she dosent wanna go out then let me know?"

You're going to totally give the power of the entire relationship to her by asking her to define the relationship. Always maintain the power and define the relationship yourself, or atleast appear to do so.
 
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Right Could i ask her if she would be madd if i went to hang out with one of my friends thats a girl
 
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No - you need to do everything by actions, not words. Ask her friend to hang out and let your girl catch wind of it from someone else.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Doesn't matter what she thinks as long as her IL goes up. Just approach her friend as a friend, and see how your girl takes you giving attention to someone else.

If you don't want to do that you can always pull back and disappear for awhile. Don't call her for a week or two and see how she acts.
 
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DO NOT HAVE A DISCUSSION WITH HER ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Just disappear for 2 weeks. Make no contact. Don't reply to any messages. See what happens. Creating drama and deep discussions does nothing to help the situation.

And next time never tell a women you've been dating a couple times that you love her...
 
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I agree with flexion, no deep discussions. As far as creating drama (through jealousy, etc.) it does work if you know what your doing and you don't get carried away with it. Honestly, now I'm rethinking that you do not have not the fundamentals in place to try something like that. I think disappearing for awhile is the best option.

I suggest you pick up a copy of Doc Love's book, or "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene. This will help you get your fundamentals in order. You'll see how off-base your thinking is when you read through them.

Good Luck!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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