"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This hot psycho depressed girl keeps contacting me

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This girl messaged me on Tinder first and eventually got my number from it. I know, it sounds weird doesn't it lol. She got my snapchat and always bugged for pictures of me and my body because she thought I was attracted. The more I got to know her the more I realized how screwed up this girl was in the head. I asked her out that weekend and she ended up flaking because she had really bad anxiety and I was like okay. Next weekend, same **** so I just stopped texting her lol. Later, she texted me asking what's up and I just casually responded to her. She told me that she's depressed and has contemplated suicide like twice this week and that she is unable to meet somebody at this time because of her mental state. I've never been in this situation before, should I just tell her to screw off?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't stick your wiener in crazy. She's already told you she's a nutjob. Don't be stupid.
 
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She is not suicidal. She has fears of abandonment and rejection so she is using the suicidal card to manipulate you into staying with her. I have seen this before in women like her.
You do not want to keep talking with her, she will only sap you for empathy. Go no contact.
 
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She wants you to be her emotional support. She's an attention whorve. If that's the case the world would be better off without her. Attention whorves are cancer.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Asmodeus said:
She is not suicidal. She has fears of abandonment and rejection so she is using the suicidal card to manipulate you into staying with her. I have seen this before in women like her.
You do not want to keep talking with her, she will only sap you for empathy. Go no contact.
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I don't know what I find less appealing, pretending to be suicidal or actually being suicidal.

If actually suicidal, at least they're honest and not just manipulating you. They might not be around for long, but... honesty is a good quality. So there's that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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you can't close the deal with a crazy off tinder?

dam bro
 
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She texted me yesterday and I got her to send me nudes and ****. Probably will bang her this weekend.
 
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I was right, I said it first. She is a borderline just using the suicide card to keep you around by appealing to your sympathy.
Ok, go ahead and bang her so long as you are ready to deal with her BS. I have messed with enough borderline women, they do not affect me. Just remember, her emotional outbursts are just methods of exerting control over you. Borderline women hate losing control, even a little bit... They have a deep fear of rejection. However, you can use that fear against her and play her like a fiddle. You can feed her the insecurities she has. When she devalues you devalue her, they have black and white thinking on more than just others, they also view themselves in extremes. You can easily toy around with them, mess with their self esteem and have them literally do whatever you want... Borderline women are not as hard to deal with as most people say they are. You just have to be a little coldhearted...
 
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Nvm, she called me a racist pos because we got in to an argument over black people lol
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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