"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This girls view on making ur GF feel special

In2theGame

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I came across this video and i dunno but Love notes, Flowers etc... that seems to be more of a nice guy that gets trashed later on down the road. What are your opinions on this? I have, of course done the flowers, cards, love notes thing but in the end it still wasnt good enough.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4kQi4oMDeQ&feature=g-u-u
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Harry Wilmington

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I actually agree with the stuff she said in the video. Once you make a girl your gf you do have to do nice things like what she mentioned.

Where most guys fail is, they try to do it everyday, or do it so often that it becomes less special. If you're buying a woman flowers every day, eventually she's stop appreciating it because it's a regular thing. Yes, girls want to know they are loved every day, but not to the extent that it doesn't feel special anymore.
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
I actually agree with the stuff she said in the video. Once you make a girl your gf you do have to do nice things like what she mentioned.

Where most guys fail is, they try to do it everyday, or do it so often that it becomes less special. If you're buying a woman flowers every day, eventually she's stop appreciating it because it's a regular thing. Yes, girls want to know they are loved every day, but not to the extent that it doesn't feel special anymore.

I agree with Harry. In the early dating stages I personally would avoid gifts, and over complimenting them (everything in moderation)

Like Harry said once you are exclusive with a woman then you can once in a while give her a nice little gift. For me I rather do something like a surprise dinner of her favorite meal, or surprise concert tickets to her favorite band, something that is personal to her and not so general like flowers.
 
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