And Im trying to get the rebound . I have known her for about 3 years but her nor I have ever showed any interest towards eachother maybe cause we were both in ltr , im still not sure. When I found out she was single I jumped on it and have been talking to her and seeing her since. My only problem is that since shes taking her break up pretty hard I cant figure out her interest level if any . She seems like she enjoys talking to me and last night she was laying on my bed drinking beer and watching movies till 2:30am but does not show any interest other then friends. Which is something I dont want to be. I my self have shown no interest either im waiting on her ! Am I being an idiot by trying to make her chase me ? Or should I just be a man about it and let her know that Im sexually attracted to her and shes someone I could see my self dating ? (not in those words) I know I dont want to scare her off and if shes drinking with me on my bed at 2 in the morning shes probably feeling pretty safe with me, right ? I just want to close the deal and not get into the "friend" trap before its to late. This is my first post on here so id like to say wassup to everyone and let you all know that any serious advice or comments would be appreciated , peace
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This girl just got dumped
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
daceovspades
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She is on the rebound. Forget about her if you want a meaningful relationship. You get together with her, and chances are that she'll eventually dump you and go back to her ex. Trust me. I know from experience in rebound relationships.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I kicked it with her again last night we ended up back in my bedroom drinking beer and talking but I still have not made it clear that Im more interested in seeing her then being friends with her. Im also confident knowing shes attracted to me. Im not sure on how to tell her all this yet someone please point me in the right direction. She has been insisting on actually taking me out so tomorow night its going to be a little role reversal would that be a good time or no ???
Okay so I just went out with this chick again, tonight she picked me up and took me to get ice cream then we went to the beach walked around for a while and played like little kids on the swings. Since she took me out tonight the roles were totally reversed , she payed for everything and even open the car door for me.We ended up back in my bed no making out nada just playing cards listening to music untill she left. I have hinted at her that I could see my self dating her. I dont know where else to go from here ... Im feeling this girl alot but have not told her exactly since I still dont want to loose all control. What do you guys think of this ??