And Im trying to get the rebound . I have known her for about 3 years but her nor I have ever showed any interest towards eachother maybe cause we were both in ltr , im still not sure. When I found out she was single I jumped on it and have been talking to her and seeing her since. My only problem is that since shes taking her break up pretty hard I cant figure out her interest level if any . She seems like she enjoys talking to me and last night she was laying on my bed drinking beer and watching movies till 2:30am but does not show any interest other then friends. Which is something I dont want to be. I my self have shown no interest either im waiting on her ! Am I being an idiot by trying to make her chase me ? Or should I just be a man about it and let her know that Im sexually attracted to her and shes someone I could see my self dating ? (not in those words) I know I dont want to scare her off and if shes drinking with me on my bed at 2 in the morning shes probably feeling pretty safe with me, right ? I just want to close the deal and not get into the "friend" trap before its to late. This is my first post on here so id like to say wassup to everyone and let you all know that any serious advice or comments would be appreciated , peace
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This girl just got dumped
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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She is on the rebound. Forget about her if you want a meaningful relationship. You get together with her, and chances are that she'll eventually dump you and go back to her ex. Trust me. I know from experience in rebound relationships.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I kicked it with her again last night we ended up back in my bedroom drinking beer and talking but I still have not made it clear that Im more interested in seeing her then being friends with her. Im also confident knowing shes attracted to me. Im not sure on how to tell her all this yet someone please point me in the right direction. She has been insisting on actually taking me out so tomorow night its going to be a little role reversal would that be a good time or no ???
Okay so I just went out with this chick again, tonight she picked me up and took me to get ice cream then we went to the beach walked around for a while and played like little kids on the swings. Since she took me out tonight the roles were totally reversed , she payed for everything and even open the car door for me.We ended up back in my bed no making out nada just playing cards listening to music untill she left. I have hinted at her that I could see my self dating her. I dont know where else to go from here ... Im feeling this girl alot but have not told her exactly since I still dont want to loose all control. What do you guys think of this ??