Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
i got no game man.. haha.. i just took my chance and ask her out...Gustav Yavo said:Truth be told, she probably just wants someone to study with. She gave you her number because she views you as harmless.
Now i'm not gonna doubt your game because i have no idea how it is, but you are reacting highly to something that is relatively meaningless...
I'd just forget about her to be completely honest, it takes more effort to try and break two people up than it does to just go out and get some other puzzy.
hey thx for the quick reply man..K.Pez said:when did she give you her number? if it was today, i'd wait a little bit before contacting her to study. the rule i follow is after you get the number, wait at least 2 days to call but no more than 4 days.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
but dude.. i kinda wanna study for this coming test though.. HAHAHAWhtRbt said:I wait 5-9 days. Usually when I get a girls number I'm busy until the next week anyway.
i started talking to her in class like 2 weeks ago... i bash the hell out of her.. like she'll be looking at me.. i'd say.. WHATCHU u looking at fool.. or i'd tell her that she needa stop copyin my test n such.. or i'd talk about the professor n she'd laugh at everything i say...K.Pez said:no problem.
and yea you don't want to seem too eager to... studyi doubt she'll do anything since she has a boyfriend, but i've been surprised before. don't get your hopes up though.
you didn't give enough info - like how long you've known her, her reaction to any flirting you've done - for me to decide if she thinks you are harmless. guess you are gonna have to test the waters out when you guys study. even if she thinks you are harmless, she has friends who are girls![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.