"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This girl gave me her number and wanna go out?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gustav Yavo
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Now i'm not gonna doubt your game because i have no idea how it is, but you are reacting highly to something that is relatively meaningless...
I'd just forget about her to be completely honest, it takes more effort to try and break two people up than it does to just go out and get some other puzzy.
i got no game man.. haha.. i just took my chance and ask her out...Gustav Yavo said:
i mean.. we talk a little in class n such.. i didnt expect her to just openly offer her number n reply back to me so quickly..
so should i call her now or later..? might as well just study since i got her number.. LOL.. i was actually testing to see if she would give her number thats all.. but now that she did.. we might as well meet n study..
call now or later man..? quick... hahaha
hey thx for the quick reply man..K.Pez said:
ye.. it just happen a couple minute ago..
we talked online n then i ask her if she wanna chill... she said yes and i ask for her number.. and RIGHT after.. no longer than 2 minutes she replied back with her number...
but the poster that said she think im harmless n this is a study date thats why she offer.. so ye..
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
but dude.. i kinda wanna study for this coming test though.. HAHAHAWhtRbt said:
im not even sexually interested in her.. i just wanted to see if i could get her digit n if she wanna chill.. i accomplish both..
if i call her now n set up time n place.. will that put me in the friend zone automatically or unless she's REALLY interested in me.. she wont care..thats what i heard from one of the posters here that say that... lets just say shes REALLY interested ok..?
and yea you don't want to seem too eager to... study
if you need are gonna spend time to study anyways, then why not study with her? it won't seem desperate or anything since you do have a test coming upyou didn't give enough info - like how long you've known her, her reaction to any flirting you've done - for me to decide if she thinks you are harmless. guess you are gonna have to test the waters out when you guys study. even if she thinks you are harmless, she has friends who are girls
i started talking to her in class like 2 weeks ago... i bash the hell out of her.. like she'll be looking at me.. i'd say.. WHATCHU u looking at fool.. or i'd tell her that she needa stop copyin my test n such.. or i'd talk about the professor n she'd laugh at everything i say...K.Pez said:no problem.
and yea you don't want to seem too eager to... study
you didn't give enough info - like how long you've known her, her reaction to any flirting you've done - for me to decide if she thinks you are harmless. guess you are gonna have to test the waters out when you guys study. even if she thinks you are harmless, she has friends who are girls
so when should i call her man..? today is friday.. and our test is in 2 weeks.. and how do i test the water.. what do i need to do to test the water? lol
if the test is in two weeks, ask her to review with you the night before the test. when you should ask is entirely up to you.
by "testing the waters," i mean that if you are interested in being more than just friends with her, run your game and watch how she responds. this will let you know if she is attracted to you or thinks you are 'harmless' and LJBF material. like i would do a little sarcastic c&f while we're studying. as an example: if i was about to ask her a hard question i'd say "this is easy, you should get this one", and if she got it wrong, i'd make a little joke like "well, if you fail this test at least you still have some late drop credits!"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Gustav Yavo
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Study at some place like a coffee shop or sumthing, because it allows you close quarters to her without seeming creepy. Hit on her, keep her laughing, and make sure you add some KINO, or you are finished with her.
Keep eye contact too.
Happy Trails!
Gustav Yavo.. alright.. ima call her next sat? is that good enough? im not trying to get in her pants.. i actually just wanna hang out.. what would be the earliest day to call?
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we just talk a minute ago.. emailing each other back and forth.. and then as soon as i ask her to meet up with me.. she stopped replying PERIOD... atleast tell me NO or something... this girl is weird.. hahaha.. im waiting for her to reply back but still no answer... haha
nvm.. after 20 minutes.. she replied back and said i can't tonight..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.