When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yes I agree this thread should be closed if the OP is unwilling to even consider opposing viewpointshoraholic said:Why haven't the mods locked this thread and banned the op? Seriously, this shyt is stupid, and everyone with a brain in their head know that personality/attitude prevails over looks any day. You are a fvcking moron if you disagree. If you dont think so, there is no point in your ugly ass being on this forum at all, and you should GTFO and kill yourself now, as no chicks will ever talk to you, cuz you aren't a model guy. case closed!
Interesting.Trader said:Yes I agree this thread should be closed if the OP is unwilling to even consider opposing viewpoints
To the OP: one interesting thing to share - you take from this what you will. This is my last response to you
I know that *objectively* speaking - that is to say, if you just saw me in a picture, you would say my looks are nothing to speak of - 5 at best.
I remember one time in a mixed gender hangout - somehow the subject was: 'How hot do you think you are, on a scale of 1-10?'
And when it came to me, I said: 'Average at best, a 5.'
And the girls were like: 'You really think you are a 5? You are so NOT a 5. You are so much higher than a 5. More like an 8.' And obviously the reason they said that was because my personality fascinates them. Girls look at the total package and often blend your looks and personality together in one total impression.
What was really interesting was - I said: 'Actually this other guy here (in our group), I would give him a 9 out of 10.' And from a pure physical standpoint, he is. He is 6'1, totally toned with muscle, good face.
But all the girls were like: 'No way, you are being way too generous! He is like a 6 more like it!'
The reason was because his personality is so bland.
Take from this what you will.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
HAHA ChrizZ...that's classic.ChrizZ said:Interesting.
Reminds me of this one time when I ate bacon.
Interesting. Reminds me of this time when I use to watch Popeye as a kid.Poonani Maker said:Let me just say that, eating right (Big salads/spinach) leads to emotional range, emotional range leads to good looks. I once considered plastic surgery as well, when I was in my early 20s! I did get lasik surgery though, which was a great decision - it expanded my awareness or peripheral vision.
I'm just confident, healthy (I think), always active, and aware. Women like to watch an aware man, and a man at work etc etc.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So maybe I'll stop going to the gym because I'm not naturally muscular. Maybe I'll stop trying to earn more money because I'm not born into a family of millionaires. If you don't try, of course you will fail.alwaysimproving7 said:I just wanna say to anyone that is new to the game of picking up girls and you're average/below average in looks don't waste your time picking up.
I used to be like the OP and share his viewpoints, but coming to SS has changed my outlook completely, my mate is extremely handsome, but has a bland personality and cannot score women.horaholic said:Why haven't the mods locked this thread and banned the op? Seriously, this shyt is stupid, and everyone with a brain in their head know that personality/attitude prevails over looks any day. You are a fvcking moron if you disagree. If you dont think so, there is no point in your ugly ass being on this forum at all, and you should GTFO and kill yourself now, as no chicks will ever talk to you, cuz you aren't a model guy. case closed!
Fair enough, tell us more about these men. DO you know them well? If so what do you think helped them get and keep these women.Energizer said:I have men with beer guts that have model like girlfriends, they are obviously sticking around for one reason or another and it certainly isn't necessarily due to looks.
I know two men with beer guts who have hot women and it's their personality that keeps the woman around, they've said so themselves. These men are the nicest, most down to earth men I've met, yet they are strong and nutcases. I'm guessing they offer security for their woman and make their woman feel good.trv26 said:Fair enough, tell us more about these men. DO you know them well? If so what do you think helped them get and keep these women.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.