Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yes I agree this thread should be closed if the OP is unwilling to even consider opposing viewpointshoraholic said:Why haven't the mods locked this thread and banned the op? Seriously, this shyt is stupid, and everyone with a brain in their head know that personality/attitude prevails over looks any day. You are a fvcking moron if you disagree. If you dont think so, there is no point in your ugly ass being on this forum at all, and you should GTFO and kill yourself now, as no chicks will ever talk to you, cuz you aren't a model guy. case closed!
Interesting.Trader said:Yes I agree this thread should be closed if the OP is unwilling to even consider opposing viewpoints
To the OP: one interesting thing to share - you take from this what you will. This is my last response to you
I know that *objectively* speaking - that is to say, if you just saw me in a picture, you would say my looks are nothing to speak of - 5 at best.
I remember one time in a mixed gender hangout - somehow the subject was: 'How hot do you think you are, on a scale of 1-10?'
And when it came to me, I said: 'Average at best, a 5.'
And the girls were like: 'You really think you are a 5? You are so NOT a 5. You are so much higher than a 5. More like an 8.' And obviously the reason they said that was because my personality fascinates them. Girls look at the total package and often blend your looks and personality together in one total impression.
What was really interesting was - I said: 'Actually this other guy here (in our group), I would give him a 9 out of 10.' And from a pure physical standpoint, he is. He is 6'1, totally toned with muscle, good face.
But all the girls were like: 'No way, you are being way too generous! He is like a 6 more like it!'
The reason was because his personality is so bland.
Take from this what you will.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HAHA ChrizZ...that's classic.ChrizZ said:Interesting.
Reminds me of this one time when I ate bacon.
Interesting. Reminds me of this time when I use to watch Popeye as a kid.Poonani Maker said:Let me just say that, eating right (Big salads/spinach) leads to emotional range, emotional range leads to good looks. I once considered plastic surgery as well, when I was in my early 20s! I did get lasik surgery though, which was a great decision - it expanded my awareness or peripheral vision.
I'm just confident, healthy (I think), always active, and aware. Women like to watch an aware man, and a man at work etc etc.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So maybe I'll stop going to the gym because I'm not naturally muscular. Maybe I'll stop trying to earn more money because I'm not born into a family of millionaires. If you don't try, of course you will fail.alwaysimproving7 said:I just wanna say to anyone that is new to the game of picking up girls and you're average/below average in looks don't waste your time picking up.
I used to be like the OP and share his viewpoints, but coming to SS has changed my outlook completely, my mate is extremely handsome, but has a bland personality and cannot score women.horaholic said:Why haven't the mods locked this thread and banned the op? Seriously, this shyt is stupid, and everyone with a brain in their head know that personality/attitude prevails over looks any day. You are a fvcking moron if you disagree. If you dont think so, there is no point in your ugly ass being on this forum at all, and you should GTFO and kill yourself now, as no chicks will ever talk to you, cuz you aren't a model guy. case closed!
Fair enough, tell us more about these men. DO you know them well? If so what do you think helped them get and keep these women.Energizer said:I have men with beer guts that have model like girlfriends, they are obviously sticking around for one reason or another and it certainly isn't necessarily due to looks.
I know two men with beer guts who have hot women and it's their personality that keeps the woman around, they've said so themselves. These men are the nicest, most down to earth men I've met, yet they are strong and nutcases. I'm guessing they offer security for their woman and make their woman feel good.trv26 said:Fair enough, tell us more about these men. DO you know them well? If so what do you think helped them get and keep these women.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.