"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr. Goods

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My friends and I are 22. I have a younger sister who is 17. Some of my friends have begun considering my sister and some of her 17-year old friends as girls to "get with" since they know the friends are around. At first I thought they were joking...they're not.:confused: Since the age of consent in my state is 17, they know it would be legal.

When my friends come to my house to hang out, my sister likes to say hi, hang out and talk for a few, etc. Clearly, when my friends tell her about their plan, she'd laugh it off and squash it. Nope. She's into it!? :nono: :trouble: To make matters more complicated, she wants to fix me up with one of her friends.

I usually make a joke or change the topic. While my friends suggest I set my standards too high in general, my sister says, "Do you not have balls? Are you gay?" At this point, I was thinking, "are you serious???" Because I know one of my friends has my sister's number and they text back-and-forth sometimes, I decide that I'm going to go one-for-one. I name one of my sister's friends to call her bluff, and my sister immediately gives me her friend's number. :confused: Of course, my friends want me to text her friend right away, but that won't be happening so soon lol. The friend whose number I got is the most attractive of my sister's friends (she's a HB8 now and turns 18 at the end of the year).

Unfortunately, this issue will continue to persist the next few weeks. One of my friends is having a party at his house in 2-3 weeks and invited my sister, who can bring some friends (including the HB8).

Honestly, I feel this whole thing is a little out of my age range even though my friends do not. When I'm 25 and the girl is 20, that's different. But a 22 year old and a 17 year old (even if one turns 18 in five months)? Feels weird to me. What do you guys think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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londonzen

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ok at 22 and 17 knowbody would dear tell me they think my sis is hot my maybe when shes older but not my just legal sister that is knockout ****
my friends sis is 18 now is on my nuts but im not gonna go there at all and expect the same from him
 

prairiedog24

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Meh. It's one thing to not wait until you're married, but I think all this exceedingly casual sex is kinda sad. I don't see what there is to win in the DJ game if you cheapen your end goals to the point where they don't matter anymore.

If you're uncomfortable with it dude, man up and stick to your standards.

At the very least prepare for drama and a weird brother/sister relationship.
 

Mr. Goods

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Thanks for the advice. I don't plan on doing anything for the time being, so nothing will happen. The only chance something would get interesting is if my sister and a couple of her friends attended my friend's party, and the HB8 came onto me publicly and in a good way (I'd be a little tempted, and my friends would be right there, but would getting with her be worth it?). I feel the brother-sister relationship would be more weird if she got with one of my friends. She thinks everything's great (she's younger, so hanging out with older people is cool), I have my questions lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Depends if your buddies consume milk 6 hours prior
 
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