"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
This 10 post limit has really killed the forums for me
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
duke007
Master Don Juan
The announcement says we should "pick and choose" what topics we'd like to reply to. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't we as DJs, encouraged to say what's on our mind without hesitation or delay? There are dozens of worthy topics in here that justify a response, opinion or supportive words of encouragement. Why should we be quiet wallflowers that wait for an opportunity to speak?
When I was starting out on Boot Camp, so called "clutter posts" like "keep up the good work man, you're on the right track!" did wonders for my confidence and pushed me to improve myself every day.
Please reconsider the rule or at least have some dialogue with the community before these fantastic forums die off.
KontrollerX
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Entropy4
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Get off your keyboards and go out! Right now, one question will have 30 answers within a day, and half of those answers come from guys who don't have the experience themselves to answer in the first place.
I think it's a great change.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I don't need other people explaining to me why restriction on my expression is positive and that I should be thankful. Make those personal choices of what is a fair post count for yourself, not me, thanks. I can make up my own mind.
You make personal choices about what is appropriate to you, and I'll do the same for myself. Cool? Good.
This thing still confuses me. It's not like every day you get a fresh 10 posts. It follows you. So if post 10 was 5pm yesterday, then I won't be able to make another post until 5pm today. At least that's how I understand it. I can't keep going back and checking "oh ok, I posted yesterday at 10 am. Now it's 8 am. So in another two hours, I can make one post." Lame. If someone understands it better, please explain it to me because I stink at math.
So Suave wasn't broken. In the announcement it says "people making 30 to 40 posts a day." Yeah, there were some. Why not write a program that finds those guys and give them some sort of limit or probation.
Oh well, I guess change is good. All the great discussions I've had here are still here, I can always read all the good stuff that happened here. I even created a thread in MM yesterday. I got great responses, and after a few failed attempts I was able to respond in my own thread.
ARrocket
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War Against Betaism
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There's another forum I visit and they do the same thing with new users. It's exactly as you said, however, you will be able to make another post before 5pm because post 1, 2, 3, came before then and their time restriction passes.reset said:
I understand the reasoning for the decision; I just think it's a little bit rash. Let's see how it pans out though.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
That's the way it should be. But Sosuave's rule affects everybody...War Against Betaism said:
Ken785
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheVirtualMind
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