"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This 10 post limit has really killed the forums for me
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
duke007
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The announcement says we should "pick and choose" what topics we'd like to reply to. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't we as DJs, encouraged to say what's on our mind without hesitation or delay? There are dozens of worthy topics in here that justify a response, opinion or supportive words of encouragement. Why should we be quiet wallflowers that wait for an opportunity to speak?
When I was starting out on Boot Camp, so called "clutter posts" like "keep up the good work man, you're on the right track!" did wonders for my confidence and pushed me to improve myself every day.
Please reconsider the rule or at least have some dialogue with the community before these fantastic forums die off.
KontrollerX
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Entropy4
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Get off your keyboards and go out! Right now, one question will have 30 answers within a day, and half of those answers come from guys who don't have the experience themselves to answer in the first place.
I think it's a great change.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't need other people explaining to me why restriction on my expression is positive and that I should be thankful. Make those personal choices of what is a fair post count for yourself, not me, thanks. I can make up my own mind.
You make personal choices about what is appropriate to you, and I'll do the same for myself. Cool? Good.
This thing still confuses me. It's not like every day you get a fresh 10 posts. It follows you. So if post 10 was 5pm yesterday, then I won't be able to make another post until 5pm today. At least that's how I understand it. I can't keep going back and checking "oh ok, I posted yesterday at 10 am. Now it's 8 am. So in another two hours, I can make one post." Lame. If someone understands it better, please explain it to me because I stink at math.
So Suave wasn't broken. In the announcement it says "people making 30 to 40 posts a day." Yeah, there were some. Why not write a program that finds those guys and give them some sort of limit or probation.
Oh well, I guess change is good. All the great discussions I've had here are still here, I can always read all the good stuff that happened here. I even created a thread in MM yesterday. I got great responses, and after a few failed attempts I was able to respond in my own thread.
ARrocket
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War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
There's another forum I visit and they do the same thing with new users. It's exactly as you said, however, you will be able to make another post before 5pm because post 1, 2, 3, came before then and their time restriction passes.reset said:
I understand the reasoning for the decision; I just think it's a little bit rash. Let's see how it pans out though.
Maxtro
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That's the way it should be. But Sosuave's rule affects everybody...War Against Betaism said:
Ken785
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheVirtualMind
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