"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This 10 post limit has really killed the forums for me
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
duke007
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The announcement says we should "pick and choose" what topics we'd like to reply to. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't we as DJs, encouraged to say what's on our mind without hesitation or delay? There are dozens of worthy topics in here that justify a response, opinion or supportive words of encouragement. Why should we be quiet wallflowers that wait for an opportunity to speak?
When I was starting out on Boot Camp, so called "clutter posts" like "keep up the good work man, you're on the right track!" did wonders for my confidence and pushed me to improve myself every day.
Please reconsider the rule or at least have some dialogue with the community before these fantastic forums die off.
KontrollerX
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Entropy4
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Get off your keyboards and go out! Right now, one question will have 30 answers within a day, and half of those answers come from guys who don't have the experience themselves to answer in the first place.
I think it's a great change.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't need other people explaining to me why restriction on my expression is positive and that I should be thankful. Make those personal choices of what is a fair post count for yourself, not me, thanks. I can make up my own mind.
You make personal choices about what is appropriate to you, and I'll do the same for myself. Cool? Good.
This thing still confuses me. It's not like every day you get a fresh 10 posts. It follows you. So if post 10 was 5pm yesterday, then I won't be able to make another post until 5pm today. At least that's how I understand it. I can't keep going back and checking "oh ok, I posted yesterday at 10 am. Now it's 8 am. So in another two hours, I can make one post." Lame. If someone understands it better, please explain it to me because I stink at math.
So Suave wasn't broken. In the announcement it says "people making 30 to 40 posts a day." Yeah, there were some. Why not write a program that finds those guys and give them some sort of limit or probation.
Oh well, I guess change is good. All the great discussions I've had here are still here, I can always read all the good stuff that happened here. I even created a thread in MM yesterday. I got great responses, and after a few failed attempts I was able to respond in my own thread.
ARrocket
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War Against Betaism
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There's another forum I visit and they do the same thing with new users. It's exactly as you said, however, you will be able to make another post before 5pm because post 1, 2, 3, came before then and their time restriction passes.reset said:
I understand the reasoning for the decision; I just think it's a little bit rash. Let's see how it pans out though.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
That's the way it should be. But Sosuave's rule affects everybody...War Against Betaism said:
Ken785
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheVirtualMind
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