This ‘Attractive’ woman seemed spoiled.

[Travel memoir21]

I usually get my dates by being myself and acting laid back and casual but I guess this chick was spoiled as usual and it would probably have been a good idea to use a more dominant c0cky and funny tone on her from the ghetko.

 

[BPH]

She's definitely difficult, but you're not doing yourself any favors either.

She messaged you first, and you went into interview mode with small-talk questions that don't get you any closer to getting her number and taking the conversation off the app. You also closed out the conversation horribly.

 

[Travel memoir21]

She's definitely difficult, but you're not doing yourself any favors either.

She messaged you first, and you went into interview mode with small-talk questions that don't get you any closer to getting her number and taking the conversation off the app. You also closed out the conversation horribly.

Really? lol…what are some cool statements or innuendo you would have used for this one?

 

[BPH]

Really? lol…what are some cool statements or innuendo you would have used for this one?

There aren't any.

You just flirt, suggest a plan, then ask for her number to take the conversation off the app.

You guys constantly shoot yourselves in the foot by staying on the app and not moving things forward.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Attractive? She looks like a haggard and poisonous older woman.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Are you trying to get a date or interview her for a job? Yikes.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Men are always being evaluated socially and sexually whether intentionally or not; there is no complete opt-out from performance.

The interaction took a nosedive as soon as you responded with "lol obviously" since it came across as dismissive and also signaled that you either didn't read her profile or were asking questions you already knew the answer to. When she pushed back with "if you already know why u ask," you became defensive, lost momentum, and had to go into dance monkey dance mode trying to keep the conversation alive.

It is hard to move forward if you do not know how to spark positive emotions. You can't expect miracles when you start with such a negative spike so early on. By the time you got to the yoga talk, you were already trying to recover from a bad first impression rather than building on a good one.

 

[jhonny9546]

you were already trying to recover from a bad first impression rather than building on a good one.

For example, what would you reply after that if you were op?

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Dang it. I like your wording in that "I just like to be myself." Good. You're comfortable with that and confidence isn't an issue.

The thing that really jumped off the ground and sl@pped me in the face with the entire conversation and the thing I can't unsee is how it resembles a textbook SCAM. Almost word for word.

It really seems like here she may have thought that. The FIRST thing in my mind when I see more than ONE question that asks for information EASILY accessed in a bio, it is a GLARING red flag. In over 90% of my conversations from OLD, in cases where "Where u from?" "How old ru?" It is followed up with requests to connect on whatsapp, kik or some other silly piddly platform or app where you have to essentially start the game over where they'll usually ask scripted questions. In some cases, you'll notice verbatim parallel. Plus, many platforms like those aren't able to really go after fruadsters or scammers.

To be honest, if a woman sent me the kinds of messages you sent her my scammer radar would be on alert. I even stopped bothering with the reply of "If you just read the profile you'd know." I just cut em off right there. "Philippine Computer College?" This makes me want to scream as well. 10 seconds on google shows a first hit of "Permanently closed."

To be honest, my assessment of this "Cate Jo" is pretty direct. "Pass." To each their own. Even if you were going 'blind' on this one, an easy going chick will flirt here. For example, "I'm in philippines, you silly! Is that real name for you?" etc... I'm very curious... How much experience do you have with OLD?

 

[Travel memoir21]

I continued on with the conversation, I got her Facebook.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

I continued on with the conversation, I got her Facebook.

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Ok. I'm wrong! Not a scammer. At least doesn't appear to be.

 

[zekko]

Attractive? She looks like a haggard and poisonous older woman.

She doesn't look haggard to me, but I don't see how you can see anything, the picture is so dark.