"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thinking of giving a gift to a girl.

Canadian Catnip

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Hi all, I need a DJ's advice on this.

There is a girl that I like and she works at a coffee shop. Every time I go in there we chat and whatnot for about 9 months now.

Well she is leaving to move to another province and I thought that I would give her a gift because we seemed to have hit it off and seemed to be friends.

She has a boyfriend and all and doesn't think of me as anything other than a friend or a good customer.

I was thinking that because she will be driving to this other province I would hand her a $50 bill on her last day and say thanks for everything. Maybe tell her she could always use extra gas money.

Do you guys think thats a good thing to do for a women? I like to take care of people that I consider my friends, but the DJ way seems to not allow doing nice things for women. Is this totally AFC or what?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Monster

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That's AFC. And boring. You could at least TRY and put some effort to get a little trinket or something that has relevance.
 

Canadian Catnip

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Monster said:
That's AFC. And boring. You could at least TRY and put some effort to get a little trinket or something that has relevance.

What, gas money is not thoughtful?
 

J-Bone

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well it is but she will be more likely to turn money down im not sure why some people are so likely to turn down money but i have seen some people get slightly offended by this gesture which could be a sign of insecurity or them thinking you are saying they can't afford things.
 

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If you are doing it for the reasons you state above, then you should go shop around for something for her. Take a female friend and get her opinion and have her shop with you for something. That would really be a good gesture. As long as it is not done for creepy reasons it will come out good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Charm

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I agree. Money will mean much less to her then something she can wear like a bracelet or something else.
 

J-Bone

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good, and clever point there francisco d'anconia
 
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