"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Think I'm losing a plate
- Thread starter K-man
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
Feeding her bullsh*t is wrong in my opinion, as you'd be leading her on, something I really hate. Just be open about it. And yes, that means you might lose a plate. Just make sure you have backups
.women haze
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SweetDannyJ
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Before being honest and open, which I also totally recommend, ask her what games she thinks you are playing.
However you go about convos in your relationship with her, bring it up and try to get some info. There's a hole somewhere, apparent with the "enough games" remark, and she might help you fix it by exposing some transparency you are unaware of.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
K-man said:
nothing...except try to avoid that next time..she clearly has feelings for you, and it is something you probably knew.
you were probably bitter a time or two over women?
**** I still get bitter thinking about a few things from YEARS ago..why didn't I have SS at 12, instead of 21!!!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
K-man said:
she is a woman.
she can trash you on FB and there will be 10 guys ready to help heal her wounds.
you trash a girl on facebook and your an ******* creep.
