"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Think I may have rescued the situation...

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but too early to see yet.

Went on a date with a girl I met online. Getting on OK but things were not going all that well. She said I was different from what she was expecting (personality wise) and she didn't feel that spark as she put it.

Its funny though that as she was explaining to me that she doesn't know if there was a connection between us. I don't know what I said but I knew I had to do something so I agreed with her and said we'll see what happens and I might like to see her again if shes a good girl! When i said this she said "see your confusing me now" leaned over and kissed me.

After that she talked about meeting up again etc. I said "we'll see" and she gave me a playfull punch in the arm. When saying goodbye we kissed again for over a minute.

Next morning I sent her a text saying something like "text you later, I'll have a think about if we should meet again but i think I'd like to ;)". About 1 min later she replied with a positive text message. She usually takes about 20 min before the date to respond to a text so thats a positive.

WARNING: I drank alot on the date and totally forgot about everything I've being learning. I was acting AFC (old habits) and it was only when I sensed things not going too well did I change my behaviour.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well, it was a learning experience, look on it as such.

You've learned not to be an AFC and not to drink on a first date (which I'm attributing to nerves, otherwise you're a fool ;p)

My only tip would to be spare with the texts, it's a sure way to be a great friend to a girl. I wouldn't send "a text about a text".
 

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Anybody think I saved the day or am I fooling myself? She had a bit to drink too.

WesCottII said:
Well, it was a learning experience, look on it as such.

You've learned not to be an AFC and not to drink on a first date (which I'm attributing to nerves, otherwise you're a fool ;p)

My only tip would to be spare with the texts, it's a sure way to be a great friend to a girl. I wouldn't send "a text about a text".
Yeah a lesson learned alright. Never have more than a few drinks.
 
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