"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Think I may have rescued the situation...

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but too early to see yet.

Went on a date with a girl I met online. Getting on OK but things were not going all that well. She said I was different from what she was expecting (personality wise) and she didn't feel that spark as she put it.

Its funny though that as she was explaining to me that she doesn't know if there was a connection between us. I don't know what I said but I knew I had to do something so I agreed with her and said we'll see what happens and I might like to see her again if shes a good girl! When i said this she said "see your confusing me now" leaned over and kissed me.

After that she talked about meeting up again etc. I said "we'll see" and she gave me a playfull punch in the arm. When saying goodbye we kissed again for over a minute.

Next morning I sent her a text saying something like "text you later, I'll have a think about if we should meet again but i think I'd like to ;)". About 1 min later she replied with a positive text message. She usually takes about 20 min before the date to respond to a text so thats a positive.

WARNING: I drank alot on the date and totally forgot about everything I've being learning. I was acting AFC (old habits) and it was only when I sensed things not going too well did I change my behaviour.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well, it was a learning experience, look on it as such.

You've learned not to be an AFC and not to drink on a first date (which I'm attributing to nerves, otherwise you're a fool ;p)

My only tip would to be spare with the texts, it's a sure way to be a great friend to a girl. I wouldn't send "a text about a text".
 

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Anybody think I saved the day or am I fooling myself? She had a bit to drink too.

WesCottII said:
Well, it was a learning experience, look on it as such.

You've learned not to be an AFC and not to drink on a first date (which I'm attributing to nerves, otherwise you're a fool ;p)

My only tip would to be spare with the texts, it's a sure way to be a great friend to a girl. I wouldn't send "a text about a text".
Yeah a lesson learned alright. Never have more than a few drinks.
 
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