"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Think I made a mistake need some advice

doinwork

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OK so I met this girl a couple weeks ago and we had a great time together. The night before last night we ran into each other again and really hit it off. She wound up sleeping over and we had sex and all that. It was a great night. She asked that I call her and take her to dinner. Sounds great right?

Here's where I think i screwed up. I went to happy hour yesterday with my friends and there was allot of drinking. I wound up calling her and texting her a bunch of times to see what she was up too. My friends kept making me contact her I think they were even teasing me by screwing with my phone and sending her messages. Funny right?

Well, later that night she texted me back and said she just picked up her phone and was busy for the weekend, that her father was in town visiting. I'm not sure if that sounds good. it almost sounds like if a girl was to say I'll be busy this weekend I'm blow drying my hair. Normaly I don't contact a girl that much but I was pretty much blacked out. She's kind of a party girl and works in a bar and is in a sorority so i think she would understand but I'm afraid I may have made her think twice.

I sent her a text message saying I was sorry I blew her phone up so much, I was in rare form at happy hour and to have a great weekend with her father. Probably not much more I can do right?

Am I making a big deal out of nothing? I'm so disappointed in myself. Now what? just wait it out? anything else I can do? maybe call her again in a week if i don't here from her? or just chalk it up as a loss?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tiguere

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Keep on trucking. It will be as big as you make it out to be
 

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doinwork said:
Here's where I think i screwed up. I went to happy hour yesterday with my friends and there was allot of drinking. I wound up calling her and texting her a bunch of times to see what she was up too.
Not good, real men keep in control of themselves.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Falcon25

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No one should come near your phone. Just like your wallet. Take a few days off, then get back in the starting rotation.
 

doinwork

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Falcon25 said:
No one should come near your phone. Just like your wallet. Take a few days off, then get back in the starting rotation.

do you mean get back in the rotation with her? how? or do you just mean girls in general?
 

stayfly

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big deal out of nothing

wait a few days, call and make a date

disregard the text thing. act as if it's not a big deal (it's not)

good luck bro
 

doinwork

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thanx man left a voice message that night apologizing for all the calls too. maybe that wasn't even necesary. maybe that hurt me. it just seemed funny at happy hour and really just wanted her to come hang. then when i sobered up i thought maybe it was inapropriate for me to blow up someone's phone i just met like that. anybody else ever have a similar situation? how did it turn out in the end?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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