"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Think I made a mistake need some advice

doinwork

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OK so I met this girl a couple weeks ago and we had a great time together. The night before last night we ran into each other again and really hit it off. She wound up sleeping over and we had sex and all that. It was a great night. She asked that I call her and take her to dinner. Sounds great right?

Here's where I think i screwed up. I went to happy hour yesterday with my friends and there was allot of drinking. I wound up calling her and texting her a bunch of times to see what she was up too. My friends kept making me contact her I think they were even teasing me by screwing with my phone and sending her messages. Funny right?

Well, later that night she texted me back and said she just picked up her phone and was busy for the weekend, that her father was in town visiting. I'm not sure if that sounds good. it almost sounds like if a girl was to say I'll be busy this weekend I'm blow drying my hair. Normaly I don't contact a girl that much but I was pretty much blacked out. She's kind of a party girl and works in a bar and is in a sorority so i think she would understand but I'm afraid I may have made her think twice.

I sent her a text message saying I was sorry I blew her phone up so much, I was in rare form at happy hour and to have a great weekend with her father. Probably not much more I can do right?

Am I making a big deal out of nothing? I'm so disappointed in myself. Now what? just wait it out? anything else I can do? maybe call her again in a week if i don't here from her? or just chalk it up as a loss?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tiguere

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Keep on trucking. It will be as big as you make it out to be
 

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doinwork said:
Here's where I think i screwed up. I went to happy hour yesterday with my friends and there was allot of drinking. I wound up calling her and texting her a bunch of times to see what she was up too.
Not good, real men keep in control of themselves.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Falcon25

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No one should come near your phone. Just like your wallet. Take a few days off, then get back in the starting rotation.
 

doinwork

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Falcon25 said:
No one should come near your phone. Just like your wallet. Take a few days off, then get back in the starting rotation.

do you mean get back in the rotation with her? how? or do you just mean girls in general?
 

stayfly

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big deal out of nothing

wait a few days, call and make a date

disregard the text thing. act as if it's not a big deal (it's not)

good luck bro
 

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thanx man left a voice message that night apologizing for all the calls too. maybe that wasn't even necesary. maybe that hurt me. it just seemed funny at happy hour and really just wanted her to come hang. then when i sobered up i thought maybe it was inapropriate for me to blow up someone's phone i just met like that. anybody else ever have a similar situation? how did it turn out in the end?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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