"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Think I made a mistake need some advice

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OK so I met this girl a couple weeks ago and we had a great time together. The night before last night we ran into each other again and really hit it off. She wound up sleeping over and we had sex and all that. It was a great night. She asked that I call her and take her to dinner. Sounds great right?

Here's where I think i screwed up. I went to happy hour yesterday with my friends and there was allot of drinking. I wound up calling her and texting her a bunch of times to see what she was up too. My friends kept making me contact her I think they were even teasing me by screwing with my phone and sending her messages. Funny right?

Well, later that night she texted me back and said she just picked up her phone and was busy for the weekend, that her father was in town visiting. I'm not sure if that sounds good. it almost sounds like if a girl was to say I'll be busy this weekend I'm blow drying my hair. Normaly I don't contact a girl that much but I was pretty much blacked out. She's kind of a party girl and works in a bar and is in a sorority so i think she would understand but I'm afraid I may have made her think twice.

I sent her a text message saying I was sorry I blew her phone up so much, I was in rare form at happy hour and to have a great weekend with her father. Probably not much more I can do right?

Am I making a big deal out of nothing? I'm so disappointed in myself. Now what? just wait it out? anything else I can do? maybe call her again in a week if i don't here from her? or just chalk it up as a loss?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tiguere

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Keep on trucking. It will be as big as you make it out to be
 

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doinwork said:
Here's where I think i screwed up. I went to happy hour yesterday with my friends and there was allot of drinking. I wound up calling her and texting her a bunch of times to see what she was up too.
Not good, real men keep in control of themselves.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No one should come near your phone. Just like your wallet. Take a few days off, then get back in the starting rotation.
 

doinwork

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Falcon25 said:
No one should come near your phone. Just like your wallet. Take a few days off, then get back in the starting rotation.

do you mean get back in the rotation with her? how? or do you just mean girls in general?
 

stayfly

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big deal out of nothing

wait a few days, call and make a date

disregard the text thing. act as if it's not a big deal (it's not)

good luck bro
 

doinwork

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thanx man left a voice message that night apologizing for all the calls too. maybe that wasn't even necesary. maybe that hurt me. it just seemed funny at happy hour and really just wanted her to come hang. then when i sobered up i thought maybe it was inapropriate for me to blow up someone's phone i just met like that. anybody else ever have a similar situation? how did it turn out in the end?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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