think I just lost an HB9, I've been working on for a while

[bootlegger]

She has a BF.

When I met her, she was 'getting out of the relationship', so I just sat back and let it happen.... well it never happened.

For 6 straight weekends she asked me to do something w/her and her friends.. I went once. On halloween. We made out for a while, but never went any further than that.

now, it appears her an her BF are fine... and she no longer flirts with me.


what i'm wondering is could this be a natural reaction to her infidelity?

How should I act, I have to see her almost everyday???

 

[NewMan]

You act like you always used to act.

Whatever her situation is is regardless.

External factors.

Keep flirting and playing with her.

 

[bootlegger]

so I should flirt, even though I don't get it in return... hmmmm.

I try to go on with my life as if I don't realize it, but it's hard to, b/c ever since I've known her, that is how we act toward each other.

 

[MRomeo99]

I'm gonna say it's possible that you lost this girl because you were a flirt with nothing to back it up. She asked you out 6 times, you only went once(a month and a half ago, I'm assuming when you first met). You should have closed the deal. I can only assume you were waiting for her to get out of her relationship. But, in her eyes, she gave you the opportunity to be a man, and take what you wanted. She offered, and offered. Yet you played the game and didn't deliver. Eventually she will just throw you in the LJBF categories if you don't step up and be a man. Sounds to me like that's where you ended up.


Eventually you have to act or not act. And a woman is sitting there evaluating everything. Lots of times we trick ourselves into that social programming of, if I'm a nice guy and I respect her, she'll be more into me when she gets to where she needs to be. That rarely ever works though. There's not going to be much else you can do with this woman, other than to make yourself unavailable. Pull back, don't push forward. Don't flirt with her more, flirt with her less. And if she doesn't lean back in, then it's time to move on.

Sorry bud.

Romeo

 

[bootlegger]

She asked me out 6 straight times, but it was always with her and her friends... That's why I didn't go... I was afraid it would put us in the friends zone.



nice post.

 

[christz]

there's challenge and just ignoreing the person.. you were the other

 

[sapphire]

She gave you an opening (6 times) to take her and you acted too disinterested. Hence, she felt rejected and went back to her BF.

Note: Some women are cautious and often times will invite a new guy just to hang out with friends. That doesn't necessarily mean that she is not interested. Sometimes they like to see how you act in a social setting where friends can give valuable feedback about a particular guy because many women accept or reject a guy based on what their friends think.

Next time, be a man and take what is yours.

 

[christz]

the feeling of having something you knew was there and losing it is terrible.

that's like eyeing a million dollars sitting on the street and nobody see's it but you debate about should you take it or not.. then right when you decide to take it

some bum walks by and picks it up

 

[bootlegger]

if she felt rejected, then shouldn't I be able to salvage something?

 

[NewMan]

Sure you should.

Grab your b#lls and go over and invite her out to lunch with you.

There's a start.

He who hesitates masterbates.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by sapphire
She gave you an opening (6 times) to take her and you acted too disinterested. Hence, she felt rejected and went back to her BF.

Note: Some women are cautious and often times will invite a new guy just to hang out with friends. That doesn't necessarily mean that she is not interested. Sometimes they like to see how you act in a social setting where friends can give valuable feedback about a particular guy because many women accept or reject a guy based on what their friends think.

Next time, be a man and take what is yours.

What he said ^^^^

 

[pimpin' reloaded>>]

hello???

do you guyz stop to think that maybe she used him? bootlegger?...hommie?...wake up and smell the coffee..!!she sounds like she needed you when she was down or somthin..

the worst part is maybe your game sucked!! back track your moves and find out what makes her "ex" tick and hit her withit or move on...

 

[pimpin' reloaded>>]

hello???

do you guyz stop to think that maybe she used him? bootlegger?...hommie?...wake up and smell the coffee..!!she sounds like she needed you when she was down or somthin..

the worst part is maybe your game sucked!! back track your moves and find out what makes her "ex" tick and hit her withit or move on...


pimpin in tha dark continent>>

 

[bootlegger]

I happen to think this is some of the best game that could be run on a chick.

After I went out with her that night, with two of her friends, We continued to flirt heavily, and there was an aura of sexual tension.

I decided It was time to go to the next level, so I started to act as though as if I didn't have any time for conversation. You know, a quick flirt, a joke, etc- then poof. I would leave.

I was giving her the gift of missing me. I did this for about a week.

It was during that time, she stopped hugging me when we would see each other, she flirted slightly but less than usual.

Then saturday she grabbed my arm when I went to leave, and asked if I was mad at her.

 

[bootlegger]

I wanted to add this also... Every since the first week I've known her. Almost everytime I see her, I say "nice pants". I don't know why, and I've never explained why.

Last week I said it again, and she acted like she got offended. She said something about me making fun of her. etc. thoughts?

 

[bootlegger]

bump

 

[NewMan]

perhaps your coming accross as to snooty.

Who knows.

My thoughts are the same.

Ask her out.

And stop saying the same thing to het time and again. If she said "Nice hair" to you everytime she saw you - you'd probably develop some kind of complex over it.

 

[myfriendblu]

heres an idea - if a chik has a bf, how about leaving her alone in the first place? LOL

 

[bootlegger]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
heres an idea - if a chik has a bf, how about leaving her alone in the first place? LOL

that's a tired line.

 

[bootlegger]

bumped, because ever-onward is back!!!