"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Think I’ve hit another wall...

Sgthaytham

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So I asked her if she wanted to go to a bar together and asked if she was free next Friday.

She responds “Hey :) With pleasure! I don’t know my timetable just yet but I will let you know”

I guess I can only wait, but this ain’t looking good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Im sorry a female isn’t bending over backwards for you like a slave op. Waitttt, she’s playing games or waiting to see if Chad is going to hit her up lmao.
 

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So I asked her if she wanted to go to a bar together and asked if she was free next Friday.

She responds “Hey :) With pleasure! I don’t know my timetable just yet but I will let you know”

I guess I can only wait, but this ain’t looking good.
Don't be the desperate needy guy. Simply say "OK, let me know" and then don't message her again until she reaches out.

Then go focus on other women. If you don't have other women then you need to fix that.
 

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Remember, it's not always about you. Do you guys forget that women are also human beings, and they have things to do, family and friends to be with, jobs, university studies, so on? Don't overthink, if it isn't a yes now, it can be a yes later. If it's a no, way better, so you won't need to wait.
 

Sgthaytham

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Don't be the desperate needy guy. Simply say "OK, let me know" and then don't message her again until she reaches out.

Then go focus on other women. If you don't have other women then you need to fix that.
that’s exactly how I answered. You’re right, nothing else I can do other than wait
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Remember, it's not always about you. Do you guys forget that women are also human beings, and they have things to do, family and friends to be with, jobs, university studies, so on? Don't overthink, if it isn't a yes now, it can be a yes later. If it's a no, way better, so you won't need to wait.
thank you!!!
 

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So I asked her if she wanted to go to a bar together and asked if she was free next Friday.

She responds “Hey :) With pleasure! I don’t know my timetable just yet but I will let you know”

I guess I can only wait, but this ain’t looking good.
Make other plans. If she takes her time getting back to you, with a flake you reply with no problem i already have plans," and if she gets back to you with a yes but it is way too late and is waiting for better plans, but her plan a falls through, you simply reply "it will have to be next time, i already made plans." And if she doesn't get back to you at all you have already made plans.

She has the choice to either make plans with you and be part of your schedule or she will have to wait until next time.

Let her know by your actions you are busy and i demand and time moves on with or without her. The key to it is to stay indifferent.
 
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