Things to talk about which spark a lady's sexual interest?

[RickTheToad]

I thought it would be good to start a thread on providing tips for other DJs on things to talk about on a first or second date which would spark a female's sexual interest? I.E. If she's a teacher or nurse, reply with, oh, a sexy teacher/nurse. Very good choice. Accepting new students/patients for one on one teaching/therapy? Just something I thought of right now. Needs a little fine tuning, but I am sure the vets here have other things to share which may be more effective in increasing her sexual interest. Another one would be to relax and be cool, calm and collective when talking. Apparently, the ladies can sense a man's nervousness level by they way they talk and the octave tone, such as higher pitch than normal, they use while they are talking.

Please all share.

 

[ohrein]

What you talk about is far less important than how you talk about it. You alluded to vocal tone and I think the sub communications are the most important piece of the puzzle. Physical escalation is also key. I think the idea of being covertly sexual is a PUA technique with questionable effectiveness. If the girl is attracted to you, covert sexual conversation is unnecessary and once you have established a sexual relationship, overt sexual communication is acceptable so.

Masculine sub communication through body language, vocal tone, eye contact and kino would be the way to go.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I would definitely avoid relating a nurse’s career with sexuality. It’s the most cliched thing in the world and most women will find it extremely offensive. You can do the same thing without the reference to the career.

Instead I would talk about how she makes that dress look, or tease her with mock shock about her being very “forward” if she says something that could be twisted to mean a sexual remark about you. Twisting her words that way can be very powerful and they usually light up deep down when you do that.

For example, when first dating my woman, one day while I was bending over, she said “Oh, that’s very nice!” about something else. I pulled the “shocked” “You’re so forward” routine on her and she ate it up. To this day I will stick my butt out and say that phrase “Oh, very nice”much to her amusement.

 

[lizardking82]

In my personal experience, there will be women who are open to sexuality in general and then most women are those who will, for some reason you will probably never fully understand, be open to you about having sex and talking about it and kidding about it.

I was having a drink with a girl about a week ago, she does have a boyfriend who is just as insecure as it gets although he seems perfect at first (Blonde hair, about 1,85 tall, blue eyes, handsome guy you can call him easily). She is the best friend of a singer girl that I manage and we just happened to be in the coffe for a while before my singer came, too. Now this is hot girl, model, about 1,7 tall, her skin is like milk, just gorgeous, at least to my taste. She has had problems with her boyfriend and I drilled through her about this in a previous meeting we had and she was just amazed. This time she went at it again and her body language was quite more agressive and also sexual. Her leg was completely in my territory and she was almost ****ing me with her eyes. Very concentrated, very locked into my eyes, almost touching my leg. I know she was feeling a mixture of feelings and yes, I made her feel that.

If a woman touches you anyhow during a date, it's a "I wanna bang you" sign. If she puts her legs on your side, if she touches your arm "unwillingly", same thing. Pay attention to her body language, it's the most important thing all the way through. If she bites her lip, even slightly, she is thinking about bangin' you. Everything sexual on a date before sex has happened is naturally covert, not overt. Make her feel sth, it's better than nothing.

 

[switch7]

What you talk about is far less important than how you talk about it. You alluded to vocal tone and I think the sub communications are the most important piece of the puzzle. Physical escalation is also key. I think the idea of being covertly sexual is a PUA technique with questionable effectiveness. If the girl is attracted to you, covert sexual conversation is unnecessary and once you have established a sexual relationship, overt sexual communication is acceptable so.

Masculine sub communication through body language, vocal tone, eye contact and kino would be the way to go.

Do you have a reading list or source for the stuff you have learnt? I like your content.

 

[Toddz]

Ohrein is 100% on it.

You're never going to simply "talk" your way into getting laid on a first or second date.

All my first or second date lays came from picking up signals the women gave off and escalating timely + appropriately based off those signals.

Some signals include eye contact, her touching you, sitting beside you not across from you, agreeing to venue change or coming back to my place, etc.

 

[RangerMIke]

Body language and what you do is a lot more important than what you say.

If you have a problem with this... while she is talking.... then just look her in the eyes and imagine that you are fvcking the hell out of her. This emotion will get communicated to her and if she is game, she will make it clear you have a green light.

 

[Glassguy]

If a woman touches you anyhow during a date, it's a "I wanna bang you" sign. If she puts her legs on your side, if she touches your arm "unwillingly", same thing. Pay attention to her body language, it's the most important thing all the way through. If she bites her lip, even slightly, she is thinking about bangin' you. Everything sexual on a date before sex has happened is naturally covert, not overt. Make her feel sth, it's better than nothing.

This is very true. I was out on a first date with a speech pathologist (doctorate) last Thursday night. Even though we knew each other before the first date, she was obviously digging me and very excited to see me as soon as we both arrived at the pizza pub we met at.

During the date I was my fun, big personality self but from the onset she was nudging my arm, play slapping me, etc. So I didnt do shyte except let her do the build up since she was all about it. Before long she was showing me how smooth her legs were by throwing one up over my lap for me to feel (she had a sundress on) and at that point I could clearly see she didnt have panties on. From there I was rubbing her legs under the booth table, etc. She turned into quite the easy lay and has been blowing me up and sending me nudes every day since and asking when we can get together again (natural red head, 5'5, 115 lbs).

If you are good at reading people, sometimes these women will do all of the work for you if the interest is sky high. Remember that on ANY date, most women will determine if they want to fvck you or not within the first 15-30 minutes and once that has been decided, its normally a done deal. I dont do anything special besides just be chill, fun, talkative and a little bit of negging/sarcasm and it seems to always work.

 

[marmel75]

Take her hand and put it on your c0ck while engaged in conversation after things have turned more sexual and do it as if its part of normal conversation and keep talking about whatever you are talking about.

You don't talk your way into their pants you do it by actions.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Being direct has never helped me . It's thru indirect discussion . Also complements don't help.

 

[ohrein]

Do you have a reading list or source for the stuff you have learnt? I like your content.

"The Rational Male" is the starting point. Rollo talks about overt/covert communication a lot in that and how men and women communicate differently in general.

Anything on body language by Joe Navarro. He's an ex fbi agent and basically takes you through reading people. The popular one is "What Every Body Is Saying".

"Double Your Dating" by David DeAngelo. Some guys might not be a big fan of his, but I think he's the best of the PUA crowd, he doesn't advocate tricks at all and he's one of the only sources I can remember that talks about body language specific to dating, although that's only a small part of the book.

But after that I recommend just digging into the psychology papers. It's where you'll find the purest information. I've read dozens of them and didn't think to keep links. Just google.

 

[RickTheToad]

It was just an idea. I herd it from Tripp Advice. It seemed intriguing.

 

[flowtheory]

"The Rational Male" is the starting point. Rollo talks about overt/covert communication a lot in that and how men and women communicate differently in general.

Anything on body language by Joe Navarro. He's an ex fbi agent and basically takes you through reading people. The popular one is "What Every Body Is Saying".

"Double Your Dating" by David DeAngelo. Some guys might not be a big fan of his, but I think he's the best of the PUA crowd, he doesn't advocate tricks at all and he's one of the only sources I can remember that talks about body language specific to dating, although that's only a small part of the book.

But after that I recommend just digging into the psychology papers. It's where you'll find the purest information. I've read dozens of them and didn't think to keep links. Just google.

I’ve been meaning to read the body language book for some time now... figured just looking at articles on body language would suffice. Do you think the book is totally worth it or articles are essentially saying the same thing.

Like this one: http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap10.html

 

[ohrein]

I’ve been meaning to read the body language book for some time now... figured just looking at articles on body language would suffice. Do you think the book is totally worth it or articles are essentially saying the same thing.

Like this one: http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap10.html

Eh, same thing. I just like books.