"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Things to remember out in the field...

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The best advice I can give to aspiring Don Juans, is: don't take anything seriously! Just relax. If she does something that confuses you, just keep your cool. Nothing drives a girl bonkers like a guy who never throws a tantrum no matter what little tricks she plays.

Except, for maybe a guy who doesn't chase after them, especially if they play coy and tease and tantalize you. The LJBF line is VERY powerful; if the girl has only so-so interest (IL = 50-60%) then it will give that interest a nitro boost. She'll go nuts wondering why you did that! You must keep her guessing. Have fun with her for a while, then avoid her for the next week.

If a woman is playing games with you, you're not doing something right. If she blatantly disrespects you, walk away and don't look back. If she's just being... uhh... difficult, then be cheerful yet don't hang around her very long. Make her miss you. Talk about other women, do the LJBF, and so on. Don't be afraid of doing the LJBF because if she is highly interested in you she'll make it clear eventually that she doesn't like that arrangement. All you have to do is sit back and wait for it to come. ;)

Now, here's a VERY important point that I haven't really seen mentioned here. Some have criticized the tactics here as being "artificial". As Pook said, "Imitation is suicide". But here's something else. After you do them for a while, they become a HABIT. And if it's a habit, guess what? It no longer can be seen as "artificial" by anyone. You'll actually start acting like a DJ without REALIZING it. You'll start to know what it's like to be a "natural" with women.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Right on, Bro!

This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in time. Lately, I've been trying to incorporate some ASF stuff into my game and it kind of throws it off sometimes. It's just not natural to me yet and I have to do too much thinking on the spot. But I was prime with just the DJ stuff. It was almost completely natural and I really didn't give it much thought. And BTW, I think I'm gonna have to LJBF this cashier. I'm really looking forward to it. I'll post the results.
 

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good Advice

Excellent BG,
you are really improving fast friend.

Keep it up!!
 

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BGman, I agree with you. Always hold on to some self respect and be willing to walk away ...even from a 10 or off-the-scale. Many people hang around too long, even after the last nail was hammered into the coffin.

However, hoping that they will 100% come back to us after we pull the LJBF line may not be practical; this is especially the case when they also have other options. My suggestion is: if you want to treat the LJBF line as a 'test' or 'bait', say it in a playful and haf-serious manner. But if you really mean it, say it and don't ever take it back. Taking it back is NOT cool. I've done it once before; needless to say, it didn't take long for the real thing to come soon after. This time, from her.
 

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Here's something else...

If you're out of practice in your DJ skills, and you're not a natural, you may be rather nervous when you start up again. Like I did, only a couple of weeks ago. But you also should find that you "pop back" much more quickly. The DJ skills you exercised kick in much more quickly.

Also, it's best if you must do a "pop back", that you have a couple "throwaway numbers" which you can go ahead and screw up on, just in case your old shyness comes back (as it did for me).

BGMan
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well what I notice is that for girls that I am so/so interested in and then later on when my interest has dropped for them and I put them in my "friends zone" and treat them like a guy they try to be sweet towards me to try to get me to feed their affectionating ego but the thing is all I know is that I really wasn't that into them in the first place.
 

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Good post.

Its all game.

If one door closes there are several others that are opening right now.

You just have to look for them.
 
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