"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Things at a stand still - wanna move up

DJoneday

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First off I'd like to thank those who have been giving me tips with this girl so far (she's really inexperienced so I've been bringing her into how things work slowly but surely)...they've all helped like crazy.

I have this girlfriend who's very into me, her friends are telling me how much she talks about me all the time, and when we hang out she's all over me. So far I've gotten my hand up her shirt/under bra during making out...and it's gotten that far the last three times we've gone out (was on vacation, so that amounts to in the last month)

I'm ready to take things up physically, and I know she's incredibly comfortable around me. How would you all suggest I get into more sexual boundaries (fingering/BJ/Touching below the waist period). Before it's usually just been a matter of time before it just happened - but in her inexperience she's been a little shy about taking things up every step of the way.

I can usually get a lot of alone time with her in either her room or my house with no parents around, so I figure that'd be the best time to start something, I'm just not sure how to bring the topic up without her being totally lost.

Any help would be great - thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AC/DC

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Don't do it while you guys are making out, she won't feel too good about not asking her, if it's such a big deal to her.

I'd say "Hey, wanna try something a lil different?" and go from there.
 

dbot

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well you've managed to get your hand up her shirt, start working your way in the other direction :p

remember that you gotta make the moves... take her where you want to go, and if she isn't ready, you'll know.
 

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Don't "bring it up." If its gonna happen, it'll be natural and you wont need to talk about it. Work your way into it and let her crave some loving.
 

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Yea this sounds familiar...how would one go on about making a 'natural' situation for her
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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