You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Of course they do. And they don't deserve our help. They need to be killed off.Bible_Belt said:So mass murderers don't have mental problems?
Get out of here with this weak stuff. You can't commit somebody that creeps you out. You know better. None of these lollypops' "mental illness" was even talked about until after the killings.Bible_Belt said:The Batman shooter kid was calling his therapist before he shot up the theater. Under the old involuntary commitment laws, he would in all likelihood have been locked up before he could kill. The Newtown shooter kid creeped everybody out for a long time, too. Mental health care could have prevented those shootings, which would have also prevented the current mass hysteria to either ban or hoard guns.
Pharmaceuticals are supposed to be combined with therapy. But typically, insurance will pay for maybe two therapy sessions a month for six months. However, insurance will pay for the drugs forever. It's similar to our many problems in non-mental health care. It's more profitable to treat the symptoms than solve the problem.Danger said:There is actually an incredible study showing how certain pharmaceuticals have a very strong link with violence.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...drugs-and-violence-review-fda-data-finds-link
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
In 1787, most written communication was through pamphlets and cheaply printed newspapers. The framers could never have envisioned a medium of speech so powerful that a message could instantly be read all over the world. Therefore, when they ratified the first Amendment, they were only thinking of the cheap newspapers of their time, and not the Internet.May_Day said:You people as well as these gun toting nuts are taking the Second Amemdment way too far. The "Right To Bear Arms" was adopted for protection (against The British, soliders, Indians, nomads and for hunting purposes) and for hunting. The Arms they used were muskets and pistols. It wasn't meant for some Hillbilly to have an arsenal and stock pile machine guns and assualt rifles. The Right To Bear Arms was for protection in the home, not for sport shooting and collecting high powered weapons. The gun manufacuters a hundred years later started making these weapons to make money. There is nothing in the constitution that says you should have a right to own any of those assault weapons. They never had them back then, so you don't need them now. The only reason they exist, is because of people making them. A shotgun or a hand gun will do a good job of what the Right to Bear arms is for, which is for protection. You don't need high powered assulat rifles to keep you safe in your home. Nobody is trying to take all guns, only ones that shouldn't be allowed in society, because we never had them before until recently.
Can martial arts stop a bullet? Didn't think so. Shows where you're coming from.LiveFreeX said:I haven't yet comes across a situation where I've needed a gun. I have enough martial arts training to deal with any aggressors...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
did not stop me from getting ar15 brospeed dawg said:Click here for the next wave logic. Use horrific tragedies to push the agenda.
Just another way for the government to somehow to make money.
Repped, even twentee would be proud of you.goundra said:martial arts can't even stop a pair of guys who have a fist sized stone in each hand, and know to throw them at the same time, from 6-8 ft away, one right after another. ONE of those 4 stones, or half bricks, or hunks of pavement, or pool balls, is going to fvck you up. punks dont need guns, just visciousness and perhaps, a buddy. I can carve you to pieces with nothing more than a 4 ft length of rebar, pipe, rod, or angle iron. So you still need a gun, even if no bad guys have them. besides, what about little women, the elderly, etc? they dont deserve an effective means of defense, right? fvck you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.