Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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They want to make you feel like you are bad

Arnzy

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I have problems in my LTR and I noticed interesting patterns in her behaviors.

She is trying so hard to make me feel like it's all my fault and that I'm horrible person. She doesn't admit anything that she has done. She just tells, how she is always been good for me and how bad I am.

They are so f*cking good at manipulating you. Honestly, sometimes I lose myself and really think how bad I am and how much harm I do to her.
I am not perfect of course, but she is trying to make me feel like I am sh*t.

May be she is trying to get more power, may be she is preparing to dump me, I don't know.
But I really don't give a f*ck. I believed that she is worth anything more, but no. Now my focus is on other women and just use her for sex as much I can.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mrgoodstuff

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Will make you feel like the slimiest dirtiest guy. When your actually good and she's being scummy.
 

Roober

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Biggest reason I am divorced...

It never gets better, it only gets worse. She will manipulate as much as you let her.
 

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I have problems in my LTR and I noticed interesting patterns in her behaviors.

She is trying so hard to make me feel like it's all my fault and that I'm horrible person. She doesn't admit anything that she has done. She just tells, how she is always been good for me and how bad I am.

They are so f*cking good at manipulating you. Honestly, sometimes I lose myself and really think how bad I am and how much harm I do to her.
I am not perfect of course, but she is trying to make me feel like I am sh*t.

May be she is trying to get more power, may be she is preparing to dump me, I don't know.
But I really don't give a f*ck. I believed that she is worth anything more, but no. Now my focus is on other women and just use her for sex as much I can.
Fvck that. I know EXACTLY what I would do in your shoes.

Go home (today), start throwing your sh!t in luggage/garbage bags and when she asks what you are doing, tell her that she is right....You're a bad person and you're fvcking miserable around her and you are leaving.

If she stays at your place, go in and tell her that its over and time for her to go. When she asks why just smile and tell her that its none of her business.

Trust me on this, be the dumper and not the dumpee. This is not a good LTR and you need to leave FAST.

Dont argue with her, have a smile on your face the entire time, make it quick and easy. I am not big on cheating in a relationship. If you mind is already seriously wondering while in a LTR, do yourself a favor and cut it off.

Within a minute of her walking out the door, I would change the locks and then go shower and get myself ready for a night on the town to get my mind game back in sync on chicks.
 

Roober

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Fvck that. I know EXACTLY what I would do in your shoes.

Go home (today), start throwing your sh!t in luggage/garbage bags and when she asks what you are doing, tell her that she is right....You're a bad person and you're fvcking miserable around her and you are leaving.

If she stays at your place, go in and tell her that its over and time for her to go. When she asks why just smile and tell her that its none of her business.

Trust me on this, be the dumper and not the dumpee. This is not a good LTR and you need to leave FAST.

Dont argue with her, have a smile on your face the entire time, make it quick and easy. I am not big on cheating in a relationship. If you mind is already seriously wondering while in a LTR, do yourself a favor and cut it off.

Within a minute of her walking out the door, I would change the locks and then go shower and get myself ready for a night on the town to get my mind game back in sync on chicks.
This! Your gut is telling you something. Don't deny that gut feeling... Everyone gets it and we often ignore it...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is happening to my friend. She guilt trips him any chance she gets. He even tells me he is beginning to doubt himself and that maybe he is at fault. To me, if this happens to that point the relationship needs to end. Just seems miserable and will never recover.
 

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Thank you guys. I told her, that she can't manipulate me like that and to f*ck off.
If she reaches out to me for sex, then okay. But I lost all my respect to her and LTR with her.
And I feel so good after that. You can't live in fear and tolerate their ****ty behavior. I used to live in that fear before this site.
 

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Anytime she tries to guilt trip you, put her on blast and point out her hypocrisy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thank you guys. I told her, that she can't manipulate me like that and to f*ck off.
If she reaches out to me for sex, then okay. But I lost all my respect to her and LTR with her.
And I feel so good after that. You can't live in fear and tolerate their ****ty behavior. I used to live in that fear before this site.
Good! You've dodged a bullet with that one. Always listen to your gut, it will steer you out of the bs that they always have. It would have been a long road if you didn't eject when you did man.
I didn't when I was in a similar situation and now paying the price. It's only now 4\5 months on I have a little confidence in my self again and started talking to people again. It will tear you apart and you gotta rebuild yourself back up!

Enjoy your care free time now man and spin a few plates and invest in yourself!

Adz--
 
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Fvck that. I know EXACTLY what I would do in your shoes.

Go home (today), start throwing your sh!t in luggage/garbage bags and when she asks what you are doing, tell her that she is right....You're a bad person and you're fvcking miserable around her and you are leaving.

If she stays at your place, go in and tell her that its over and time for her to go. When she asks why just smile and tell her that its none of her business.

Trust me on this, be the dumper and not the dumpee. This is not a good LTR and you need to leave FAST.

Dont argue with her, have a smile on your face the entire time, make it quick and easy. I am not big on cheating in a relationship. If you mind is already seriously wondering while in a LTR, do yourself a favor and cut it off.

Within a minute of her walking out the door, I would change the locks and then go shower and get myself ready for a night on the town to get my mind game back in sync on chicks.
This.

And oh how quickly many of their attitudes would change if more men did this. They could be flying off the wall, but the moment they think you're serious and they may never see you again, they balk.

"well, you don't have to LEAVE. we can talk about it"
 
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