"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

They want to make you feel like you are bad

Arnzy

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2016
Messages
17
Reaction score
6
Age
28
I have problems in my LTR and I noticed interesting patterns in her behaviors.

She is trying so hard to make me feel like it's all my fault and that I'm horrible person. She doesn't admit anything that she has done. She just tells, how she is always been good for me and how bad I am.

They are so f*cking good at manipulating you. Honestly, sometimes I lose myself and really think how bad I am and how much harm I do to her.
I am not perfect of course, but she is trying to make me feel like I am sh*t.

May be she is trying to get more power, may be she is preparing to dump me, I don't know.
But I really don't give a f*ck. I believed that she is worth anything more, but no. Now my focus is on other women and just use her for sex as much I can.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

mrgoodstuff

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 27, 2015
Messages
17,586
Reaction score
11,948
Location
DFW, TX
Will make you feel like the slimiest dirtiest guy. When your actually good and she's being scummy.
 

Roober

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2016
Messages
2,372
Reaction score
2,120
Biggest reason I am divorced...

It never gets better, it only gets worse. She will manipulate as much as you let her.
 

Glassguy

Moderator
Joined
Apr 25, 2016
Messages
4,789
Reaction score
8,861
Age
49
I have problems in my LTR and I noticed interesting patterns in her behaviors.

She is trying so hard to make me feel like it's all my fault and that I'm horrible person. She doesn't admit anything that she has done. She just tells, how she is always been good for me and how bad I am.

They are so f*cking good at manipulating you. Honestly, sometimes I lose myself and really think how bad I am and how much harm I do to her.
I am not perfect of course, but she is trying to make me feel like I am sh*t.

May be she is trying to get more power, may be she is preparing to dump me, I don't know.
But I really don't give a f*ck. I believed that she is worth anything more, but no. Now my focus is on other women and just use her for sex as much I can.
Fvck that. I know EXACTLY what I would do in your shoes.

Go home (today), start throwing your sh!t in luggage/garbage bags and when she asks what you are doing, tell her that she is right....You're a bad person and you're fvcking miserable around her and you are leaving.

If she stays at your place, go in and tell her that its over and time for her to go. When she asks why just smile and tell her that its none of her business.

Trust me on this, be the dumper and not the dumpee. This is not a good LTR and you need to leave FAST.

Dont argue with her, have a smile on your face the entire time, make it quick and easy. I am not big on cheating in a relationship. If you mind is already seriously wondering while in a LTR, do yourself a favor and cut it off.

Within a minute of her walking out the door, I would change the locks and then go shower and get myself ready for a night on the town to get my mind game back in sync on chicks.
 

Roober

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2016
Messages
2,372
Reaction score
2,120
Fvck that. I know EXACTLY what I would do in your shoes.

Go home (today), start throwing your sh!t in luggage/garbage bags and when she asks what you are doing, tell her that she is right....You're a bad person and you're fvcking miserable around her and you are leaving.

If she stays at your place, go in and tell her that its over and time for her to go. When she asks why just smile and tell her that its none of her business.

Trust me on this, be the dumper and not the dumpee. This is not a good LTR and you need to leave FAST.

Dont argue with her, have a smile on your face the entire time, make it quick and easy. I am not big on cheating in a relationship. If you mind is already seriously wondering while in a LTR, do yourself a favor and cut it off.

Within a minute of her walking out the door, I would change the locks and then go shower and get myself ready for a night on the town to get my mind game back in sync on chicks.
This! Your gut is telling you something. Don't deny that gut feeling... Everyone gets it and we often ignore it...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

RedZone

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
278
Reaction score
46
This is happening to my friend. She guilt trips him any chance she gets. He even tells me he is beginning to doubt himself and that maybe he is at fault. To me, if this happens to that point the relationship needs to end. Just seems miserable and will never recover.
 

Arnzy

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2016
Messages
17
Reaction score
6
Age
28
Thank you guys. I told her, that she can't manipulate me like that and to f*ck off.
If she reaches out to me for sex, then okay. But I lost all my respect to her and LTR with her.
And I feel so good after that. You can't live in fear and tolerate their ****ty behavior. I used to live in that fear before this site.
 

El Payaso

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 16, 2014
Messages
3,621
Reaction score
2,624
Anytime she tries to guilt trip you, put her on blast and point out her hypocrisy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Adz--

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2014
Messages
147
Reaction score
28
Thank you guys. I told her, that she can't manipulate me like that and to f*ck off.
If she reaches out to me for sex, then okay. But I lost all my respect to her and LTR with her.
And I feel so good after that. You can't live in fear and tolerate their ****ty behavior. I used to live in that fear before this site.
Good! You've dodged a bullet with that one. Always listen to your gut, it will steer you out of the bs that they always have. It would have been a long road if you didn't eject when you did man.
I didn't when I was in a similar situation and now paying the price. It's only now 4\5 months on I have a little confidence in my self again and started talking to people again. It will tear you apart and you gotta rebuild yourself back up!

Enjoy your care free time now man and spin a few plates and invest in yourself!

Adz--
 
B

BlueAlpha1

Guest
Fvck that. I know EXACTLY what I would do in your shoes.

Go home (today), start throwing your sh!t in luggage/garbage bags and when she asks what you are doing, tell her that she is right....You're a bad person and you're fvcking miserable around her and you are leaving.

If she stays at your place, go in and tell her that its over and time for her to go. When she asks why just smile and tell her that its none of her business.

Trust me on this, be the dumper and not the dumpee. This is not a good LTR and you need to leave FAST.

Dont argue with her, have a smile on your face the entire time, make it quick and easy. I am not big on cheating in a relationship. If you mind is already seriously wondering while in a LTR, do yourself a favor and cut it off.

Within a minute of her walking out the door, I would change the locks and then go shower and get myself ready for a night on the town to get my mind game back in sync on chicks.
This.

And oh how quickly many of their attitudes would change if more men did this. They could be flying off the wall, but the moment they think you're serious and they may never see you again, they balk.

"well, you don't have to LEAVE. we can talk about it"
 
Top