"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There's two types of "guys freinds"..The "Replacement BF" and the "Mangina".
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
Yes agreed, but thats only if you are hoping to become their bf by entering the relationship as their friend. if you do it this way, yo are doomedJuan_Man said:
from the start.
yes, absoloutley,Cowhead418 said:
if you have a friend who is attractive, there must be an alterior motive, there has to be. For starters, the only reason your likely to talk to an attractive girl in the first place, is because you want to bang her. When does anybody look at a fitty and say "I want to be her friend" it doesnt happen, im not saying that female friends dont work as social proof, i just cant see the logic in making friends with a female for thjat purpose, unless she is unnatractive.
Secondly, what happens when you decide you want to bang your frind, because ultimatley thats going to happen, theres no point avoiding it, because at some point, you are going to want to bang your attractive female friend, then she's no longer your friend, she becomes your "love interest". which ulitmatley leads to oneitis.
gettin to the second point now, even if you are banging someone hotter, lets face it, weve all had the "id bang her" conversation, i dont think there are 2 ways about it, a bloke is guided by his penis and is unlikley to turn any girls down because "Shes his friend".
Yes, you can have aquaitances for social proof, theres nothing wrong with that, wotsoeva, just dont call them your friends because they arnt they are essentially, "chicks you know" these arent your friends they just gilrs you talk too, you dont take a chick to a footie game or arrange to go out drinking with the birds, thats fundametally wrong, if the girls are there, you talk to them, and you have a laugh, but under no circumstance do you call these girlsd your friends, if anything, they are potential shaggs, and should be treated as such.
rant over
One of them is saving me $$$ on some stuff. Another one is helping me out with credit **** and stuff. I can go on and on.
But, if you have these "friends" and they are giving nothing back to you except the great oportunity to go shop together, watch desperate housewives together, and all that amaaaazing fun stuff, I don't see a reason to hang around. It's not that it's THAT bad, it's just that there are other things that are much more productive.
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wow, talk about another clueless stereotype! You really need to get out there and meet more women!( . )( . ) said:
My female friends and I do lots of cool non-girly stuff like going for drinks, playing pool, cinema, meals, theme parks, I even went rock climbing with a female friend a few months ago.
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Here here, dont you worry jariella I'm just kidding I know sisters are doing it for themselves , mens equal, girl power and all that, settle down tigerJariel said:
I was talking about you.Buck Rogers
Don Juan
yes, but was this with just your female frinds and just you? or were some of your male friends present?Jariel said:
oh yea, just for the record, meals are girly.
Bingo.( . )( . ) said:
I said it before and I will say it again. Female friends make lousy friends. A woman tends to think with her emotions when she picks her "friends". If there is no attraction there for her, then your sole purpose is to entertain her and make her happy as oppose to fvcking her, which will make you happy.Jariel said:
Having female friends will not make you better with women because they are not attracted to you and therefore will not put you through sh1t tests or be slightly apprenhensive about you. Most of the guys who came to this site were as a result of being comfortable around a female friend to a point where they end up liking her. You end up like one of the girlfriends in her eyes.
I remember Pook once said that he can't have any more female friends because it gotten to a point where they all try to fvck him in the end and if he refused then they would act up and pull some sh1t like an AFC guy would.
LIT also said something that was very true:
When you are friend with a female you are her puppet and she runs the show. If you ran the show then it means that she would consider fvcking you and terminate this so called "Platonic Friendship" Charade. Most guys who say that they like female friends and are not attracted to them always pick HOT FEMALE FRIENDS. I have yet to meet a guy who has prospects that is dying to hang around an ugly female friend. Why not you ask? because any guy would rather hang around a female he would fvck later then just a female who will hug him in the end of the day like he is her godamn brother. ANY MAN WOULD RATHER FVCK A WOMAN THEN HANG WITH A WOMAN.Lost In Translation said:
DJD