"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There's this Chinese girl at my school...

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Well, I go to school in San Francisco. so, there are a LOT of Chinese girls here. But, that's beside the point.

Anyway, I met her the other day. I stopped her on her way to class (we were walking the same way regardless) and I asked her her name. She looked at me with a really bright smile and gave it, shook my hand, and we talked for a minute. After that, as it was getting to the time where we had to be in classes, we went our ways.

This was a couple of days ago. She's been smiling and waving at me, there's been playful hitting in passing, but I can't ever seem to get the girl alone to actually talk to her. And, since she's literally Chinese, I don't know if here English is really that great. :/

SO, here's my couple-part question: how does a Don Juan go about getting a girl from a different culture, with a language barrier? AND, how should I go about getting her alone if she's always in that damned group of friends?

I appreciate the help ahead of time. Thanks, guys.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Yuma said:
Well, I go to school in San Francisco. so, there are a LOT of Chinese girls here. But, that's beside the point.

Anyway, I met her the other day. I stopped her on her way to class (we were walking the same way regardless) and I asked her her name. She looked at me with a really bright smile and gave it, shook my hand, and we talked for a minute. After that, as it was getting to the time where we had to be in classes, we went our ways.

This was a couple of days ago. She's been smiling and waving at me, there's been playful hitting in passing, but I can't ever seem to get the girl alone to actually talk to her. And, since she's literally Chinese, I don't know if here English is really that great. :/

SO, here's my couple-part question: how does a Don Juan go about getting a girl from a different culture, with a language barrier? AND, how should I go about getting her alone if she's always in that damned group of friends?

I appreciate the help ahead of time. Thanks, guys.
next time when u meet someone, get their #. culture is irrelevent...how bad is her language? you can obviously understand her which is good. I dated this Brazillian girl once, and I had no idea what she was saying half the time, so i would just shake my head and change topics frequently. Fortunately she was really good looking ;)

anyway, get her alone and get her to have a drink with you at a local bar.
 

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playaslaya said:
next time when u meet someone, get their #.
Yeah, I can fault myself for that one. I don't really have an excuse except that I just didn't do it.

But, her language, I guess isn't bad. Good enough to understand what I said, so talking to her again shouldn't be a problem.

Thanks for the advice!
 
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