You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Very well said.(+) Mindset said:The phrase "nice guy" goes way deeper. It's simply not about what it means on the surface. Girls view nice guys as people who don't know what it's really all about. Socially handicapped when it comes to girls.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You are right dude, many dudes on this site have this stupid idea that all bad boys are DJ's and all nice guys are AFC's, this however isn't true, attracting hot babes is more about the dudes charisma than his attitude.:yes:Sean O said:The problem on this site is that people use the term "Nice Guy" to describe an AFC as if the two terms were interchangable. However, it's possible to be a nice PUA. I've known quite a few of them over the years and they were WAY more successful with women than any jerk PUA ever could be.
So yeah, I definitely agree that being a nice guy in and of itself is not a bad thing. Being SUPPLICATING, however, will always work against you when it comes to getting women.