"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Theres a woman

sosousage

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Well shes dating someone else and hes already (or maybe not yet) her boyfriend.

But she was sexually attracted to my photos and now tells me (initiated by her) that we should meet for a coffee.

note, we were flirting a lot till she told me shes meeting someone.


this is weird because Im not friendzone type, never got friendzoned, never made many attempts tho, but thing is im tall and ya know, fit.

is it normal for females to force meetings with people that they are attracted to even if they have boyfriend? cause im sure im not friendzone type and we didnt even meet (never). i got her from tinder.

all my exes had MALE friends but they were UNATTRACTIVE! im not saying im the best catch but she was flirting with me only cuz she liked my look and the way I text.


ps i was totally fine with her meeting someone i didnt really try to invite her anywhere for first meeting (and we were chatting for 2 months, it was sexual talk so i liked it)



note im not oneitus (im zeroitus but dont really mind it, busy with life) but i find it interesting. maybe she disliked the new boy? (probably not as fit as me)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Billtx49

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this is weird because Im not friendzone type

cause im sure im not friendzone type

(and we were chatting for 2 months, it was sexual talk so i liked it)
Stop friend zoning yourself. Be decisive. You’re only an attention feeder…
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MrJack

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Well shes dating someone else and hes already (or maybe not yet) her boyfriend.

But she was sexually attracted to my photos and now tells me (initiated by her) that we should meet for a coffee.

note, we were flirting a lot till she told me shes meeting someone.


this is weird because Im not friendzone type, never got friendzoned, never made many attempts tho, but thing is im tall and ya know, fit.

is it normal for females to force meetings with people that they are attracted to even if they have boyfriend? cause im sure im not friendzone type and we didnt even meet (never). i got her from tinder.

all my exes had MALE friends but they were UNATTRACTIVE! im not saying im the best catch but she was flirting with me only cuz she liked my look and the way I text.


ps i was totally fine with her meeting someone i didnt really try to invite her anywhere for first meeting (and we were chatting for 2 months, it was sexual talk so i liked it)



note im not oneitus (im zeroitus but dont really mind it, busy with life) but i find it interesting. maybe she disliked the new boy? (probably not as fit as me)
Her: "I've been seeing someone else"

You: "I pet other peoples dogs"

Alternate wording

Her: "I have a bf"

You: "I have a cat"


Feel free to interchange dog and cat depending on whether you're a dog person or a cat person.
 
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