"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
theres a house party 2morow - giv me tips fast!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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For *****es, let your drunk instincts take over if she is too. If not, put on some game and eventually find a way to get her somewhere a little more private, like a couch or big chair or something.
Five To One
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He literarly has zero social proof
"that guy" is the one guy at the party who is more obnoxious than the rest, drunker than the rest, more immature than the rest, just flat out annoying. You can always tell whos "that guy" by the eye rolling and mocking he receives the second he turns his back.
If you dont see anyone getting eye rolled and mocked then thats because your being "that guy"
Have a good time and party crazy, just be sure to control your alcohol.
What Luke said is spot on too.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
If you know some funny jokes... tell them. Got a good story? Tell it. You see a girl you like... Go talk to her.
intrextrovert
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hey broski's, im back from the party and its almost 1am.
i just wanna say....IT WAS WORTH IT!
guys its like i wen i got there i was this other guy, an alpha....anyways im just gonna giv u a quick highlight....some ****ed sh*t also happened.
- K so me and 2 of my buddies get there, i start talkin to ppl and get to know most of them there.
- There is this one hottie i keep flirting with(kino helped a lot)
-i basically chill with diferent groups of ppl for most of the time....ppl r slowly getting drunk.
-its getting late me and my buddies r chillin in a corner in the yard(its darkoutside...so its a little hard to see)
- at this point ive flirted with a lot of girls...been the life of the party for most of the sets n groups ive opened.
-Then out of know there this fuked up drunk guy pushes me from behind hard and i fall down...this mofos lookin for a fight...
- I avoid it cuz they wer like 6 of them and 3 of us...but it was unexpected so im like wtf jus happened? Even though i wanted to **** the guy up and i usually to but there wer too many of them.
- Anyways the night goes by and i continue with runnin game & flirting, especially on my target.
- at the end wen im about to leave we all hug goodbye...but wen she hugs me i wisper in her ear..."how bout a goodbye kiss?"...n shes like maybe some other time....n i tell her in a really alpha way its fine dnt wry about it(it was in a way that u could sense she was the one missin out)...
- then wat happens is...she stares into my eyes...n she comes in for another hug....i hug her but this time after the hug(were kinda still huggin eachother)...she tilts her...i sense it right away, we makout for like a minute...meanwhile i rub my hand over her as*s...n then work it up to her right boob...give it a slight squeeze (just like ive seen lesbians do it in porn)...n then we end it n she says i wanna talk to u later... i tell her sure, take care ..n me and ma boyz leave.
Anyways....that makeout made my day...even though i got pushed hard from behind by a huge drunk guy...it was sick for my first house party.
thx for tips guys, pce
CTApprentice
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
eaglez1177
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.