"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Yips.

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Not thinking too much. When athletes start to think about what they do it causes them to slow their game down. What is happening is that normally their sub-conscious is taking care of it for them. Through years of practice they have learnt to automatically asses situations within their game and react automatically. Thinking about it just slows this process down.

Its called The Yips and the same thing has happened to me in life. By concentrating on concepts and philosophies and ignoring the practice I have become, well, not practiced enough. What you need is the right amount of concept and the right amount of practice and for me this is split 80/20 in favour of practice. Maybe this is because I have done so much thinking.

Anyway, the point is that when I just tell myself that I can do something and have faith in myself I find that I can do it quite naturally. I also now know that only by practising can you improve at something.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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oOh Nasty

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i like.

you do your best when you're not thinking about it.

ahh. the beauty of the natural mind.
 

Walk this Way

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Absolutely true. Consider the first three minutes meeting a girl - a tremendous amount is going. There is no possible way to monitor all the processes. Practice is the key to making the physical reactions automatic. Natural is also, of course, more attractive. It's a plus-plus situation. Many people do not understand the importance of APPLICATION - reading will go nowhere without practice.
 

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"Paralysis through analysis"
 
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