"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Yips.

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Not thinking too much. When athletes start to think about what they do it causes them to slow their game down. What is happening is that normally their sub-conscious is taking care of it for them. Through years of practice they have learnt to automatically asses situations within their game and react automatically. Thinking about it just slows this process down.

Its called The Yips and the same thing has happened to me in life. By concentrating on concepts and philosophies and ignoring the practice I have become, well, not practiced enough. What you need is the right amount of concept and the right amount of practice and for me this is split 80/20 in favour of practice. Maybe this is because I have done so much thinking.

Anyway, the point is that when I just tell myself that I can do something and have faith in myself I find that I can do it quite naturally. I also now know that only by practising can you improve at something.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i like.

you do your best when you're not thinking about it.

ahh. the beauty of the natural mind.
 

Walk this Way

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Absolutely true. Consider the first three minutes meeting a girl - a tremendous amount is going. There is no possible way to monitor all the processes. Practice is the key to making the physical reactions automatic. Natural is also, of course, more attractive. It's a plus-plus situation. Many people do not understand the importance of APPLICATION - reading will go nowhere without practice.
 

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"Paralysis through analysis"
 
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