"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The X-Factor

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I have noticed that when I notice a girl, it's not all about how "hot" they are. Don't get me wrong, I notice beautiful women, but their seems to be more to my level of attraction to them than their raw appearance. I don't know what this is, because I have found in the past that I can be significantly more sexually attracted to some 7's than other 9's all other things being equal. I've always thought of the factor that can bring a 7's sexual attractiveness above a 9's as the X-factor.

Do you guys feel like this at all and have any idea what this X-factor could be? I don't know if it is female game, the projection of higher sexual availability, or maybe the less pretty girl just typifies a body morphology I am more attracted to than the prettier girl. Who knows. Any ideas?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Atom Smasher

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I have also wondered about this.

I have seen some girls whom I would normally think are on the ugly side, but they project this raw sexuality that I haven't yet been able to define.

It's a projection, it's almost like certain exaggerated expressions with the mouth, but there's more to it than that.
 

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Personally I never could relate to the obsession with extremely gorgeous girls. I was always more attracted to kind of "non-traditional" looking girls....pretty but maybe odd in some way. I've just never been a chaser of 9's and the mythical 10. Too much work for no additional benefit to my life.

And after having been with dozens of different women, I realized that all cats are grey in the dark, so to speak. The pvssy of a 9 is no different than that of a 6, relatively speaking. As long as the girl you like gives you a good hard boner, and you are proud to have her around your arm in public, it's all good.

I will say though that she should look the way you like from day one. If you don't like her waist, hair quality, breath, or some other feature you should consider finding another girl for a long-term prospect, because it will NOT get better with time.
 

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Oh hell yeah. Give me a less traditionally attractive woman who has had lots of athleticism in her life and distinctive looks over a tanning bed, fake tit, meat on the hoof standardized look any day. I may be the only man in the U.S. who would walk right past Kim Kardashian without a second glance.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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