"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The X-Factor

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I have noticed that when I notice a girl, it's not all about how "hot" they are. Don't get me wrong, I notice beautiful women, but their seems to be more to my level of attraction to them than their raw appearance. I don't know what this is, because I have found in the past that I can be significantly more sexually attracted to some 7's than other 9's all other things being equal. I've always thought of the factor that can bring a 7's sexual attractiveness above a 9's as the X-factor.

Do you guys feel like this at all and have any idea what this X-factor could be? I don't know if it is female game, the projection of higher sexual availability, or maybe the less pretty girl just typifies a body morphology I am more attracted to than the prettier girl. Who knows. Any ideas?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Atom Smasher

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I have also wondered about this.

I have seen some girls whom I would normally think are on the ugly side, but they project this raw sexuality that I haven't yet been able to define.

It's a projection, it's almost like certain exaggerated expressions with the mouth, but there's more to it than that.
 

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Personally I never could relate to the obsession with extremely gorgeous girls. I was always more attracted to kind of "non-traditional" looking girls....pretty but maybe odd in some way. I've just never been a chaser of 9's and the mythical 10. Too much work for no additional benefit to my life.

And after having been with dozens of different women, I realized that all cats are grey in the dark, so to speak. The pvssy of a 9 is no different than that of a 6, relatively speaking. As long as the girl you like gives you a good hard boner, and you are proud to have her around your arm in public, it's all good.

I will say though that she should look the way you like from day one. If you don't like her waist, hair quality, breath, or some other feature you should consider finding another girl for a long-term prospect, because it will NOT get better with time.
 

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Oh hell yeah. Give me a less traditionally attractive woman who has had lots of athleticism in her life and distinctive looks over a tanning bed, fake tit, meat on the hoof standardized look any day. I may be the only man in the U.S. who would walk right past Kim Kardashian without a second glance.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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