"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The whole internet thing

GaryNas

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I keep reading about guys on here talking with girls online. I'm definitely not into looking for an online relationship or whatever, but practicing convo skills would be nice. So where do you guys go? I signed up for this friendster thing, but it says I have to add friends and build a network. I tried doing searches, but everytime 0 results are returned. So that seems like a dud (or maybe I'm doing something wrong).

What else is there? I only use ICQ as an IM, but nobody is really on there any more except a few of my real life friends...

Help!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FreeStyleZ

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go into AOL chat rooms i guess...... or run a search through profiles for ur state
 

Lifeforce

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Practice convo skills in the real world, with real people. Much of your language doesn't come from what you say but the tone you use and the way you move your body. In other words, you will never learn a thing from online conversations because you can't implement it into real life. I hope every Online-DJs reads this.
 

gav

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i totally agree with lifeforce.

one other important disctinction - in real life u have to think on ure feet.
 

Diaoz

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You have to add people to be able to see other people. It basically allows you to see your friend's friends and your friend's friend's friends etc...anyway, I just started the friendster So Suave group, join us. First Name: So Suave Last Name: Online
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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I hate chatting with girls online. It is incredibly lame and there is absolutely no excitment or mystery.

I know some guys who spend days at a time literally just chatting with people through MSN messenger and such.

I use messenger to send brief messages to friends and such but to have a conversation, I'd much rather meet in person or at least over the phone.

It's like people are getting used to hiding behind their computer screen and would rather do that than experience real human interaction.

I guess the same could be said about this forum.:p
 
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