You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Lol that I'm trying to say how great I am for stealing her from him. As soon as I saw her give him her number I went about my business, I don't compete with friends or friends of friends. Guys that do that look like little b!tches to me. I don't put myself on the same level as anyone, and if the girl thinks that there is any need for me to try to steal her or win her over from him then I will just laugh and move on.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Perfect. That's the attitude all men should have.
Yes, those are the ones that simply aren't interested. Another example of guys spending 95% of their time trying to convince uninterested women to be interested instead of spending it finding women who are interested.
Love how nobody on here believes in persistence. What do you have to lose? Shame? Ego? LOL. We're on an online forum called "sosuave" that is used for exchanging ideas on picking up women... None of us have any shame anymore. We're all f*cking "betas".
Is it persistence or desperation to chase women like that....?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You do have a good point, in that a lot of guys are so afraid of getting rejected or "losing" that they quickly throw in the towel to save face and protect their ego
Being persistent is good with the RIGHT woman..a woman who won't even go on a first date with you isn't that woman. That's called I'm not interested.
If a woman is "on the fence" after you've been on several dates AND you've f*cked her then she is not that interested OR she's a wh0re.
Things aren't always as black and white as you try to make them. For the most part I agree, but there is the 5-10% of cases that fall into a gray area...
You don't get it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I clearly get it. I just wrote that you send 2-3 texts to set something up. In person. What the hell else would I be referring to setting something up? A call on the party line?
