You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lol that I'm trying to say how great I am for stealing her from him. As soon as I saw her give him her number I went about my business, I don't compete with friends or friends of friends. Guys that do that look like little b!tches to me. I don't put myself on the same level as anyone, and if the girl thinks that there is any need for me to try to steal her or win her over from him then I will just laugh and move on.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Perfect. That's the attitude all men should have.
Yes, those are the ones that simply aren't interested. Another example of guys spending 95% of their time trying to convince uninterested women to be interested instead of spending it finding women who are interested.
Love how nobody on here believes in persistence. What do you have to lose? Shame? Ego? LOL. We're on an online forum called "sosuave" that is used for exchanging ideas on picking up women... None of us have any shame anymore. We're all f*cking "betas".
Is it persistence or desperation to chase women like that....?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You do have a good point, in that a lot of guys are so afraid of getting rejected or "losing" that they quickly throw in the towel to save face and protect their ego
Being persistent is good with the RIGHT woman..a woman who won't even go on a first date with you isn't that woman. That's called I'm not interested.
If a woman is "on the fence" after you've been on several dates AND you've f*cked her then she is not that interested OR she's a wh0re.
Things aren't always as black and white as you try to make them. For the most part I agree, but there is the 5-10% of cases that fall into a gray area...
You don't get it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I clearly get it. I just wrote that you send 2-3 texts to set something up. In person. What the hell else would I be referring to setting something up? A call on the party line?
