"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The weather/season where you're at.....

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why are you talking about the weather in this manner on a forum intended for success with dating? Not quite sure what the purpose is here.

Also sounds like you're in the Midwest; I suggest moving somewhere that doesn't suck.
 

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Why are you talking about the weather in this manner on a forum intended for success with dating? Not quite sure what the purpose is here.
I just spoke to common sense and they said it's because we're in the "anything else" sub forum.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The weather is the ultimate small talk and ice breaker topic because it’s something we all can relate to. Nothing at all wrong with discussing it here in Anything Else. Sometimes with chicks i will say “Mother nature is being bi polar again. We got 85 this afternoon and then supposed to get down in the 40s by tomorrow morning “. Here in Illinois this scenario is not uncommon. And I like to joke about it.
 

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Weather change-its finally inthe minus celsius numbers in the morning.
So relieved the hot days are gone.

I had to remind myself how to dress for outdoors physical work in the cold.
As soon as I remembered to slightly underdress to compensate for getting overheated while exercising, then I was ok.

Otherwise, the sweat when I take off the layers would chill me. And then the clothes are too damp to put back on.

I don't know if anyone on this forum works in a physical job outdoors like me.
Weather is very important to us.
 

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It is harvest season near me. Combines everywhere. It has been very dry. The Mississippi river just south of st louis is so narrow that barges are backing up. There is a lot more sand than water.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It is harvest season near me. Combines everywhere. It has been very dry. The Mississippi river just south of st louis is so narrow that barges are backing up. There is a lot more sand than water.
Wow, that is dry.
I imagine that can get serious if too many barges back up.

Harvest was mostly done about 2 weeks ago here.
They give percentage updates on all radio stations, so even when you're in the city you are connected to the farmers.

Its interesting to me to talk about the weather, you learn so much.
Now when I go back to work after break I'll have this image of what it'd be like to be on a barge behind many other barges on a dried river.
 

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Great day here today. Cloudy and in the low 70s F.
 
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