Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i disagree on this one.Originally posted by aequitas
You need to MAKE her tell you... now dont get the wrong idea... i'm not saying that u must hold her at gunpoint and force her to tell you her feelings for you, but I'm saying that u need to hint it to her by saying something like:
" look (her name) I'n not sure if you're into me or not, but i would really like to know because there ARE other girls that i AM kinda putting on hold because of you, and i wanna know if i should let something happen with them, or is something gonna happen with us? Because i know for 1 that i dig you, but i need to know if you feel the same way or not"
Say something along those lines, and by u saying to her that u dig her takes away that fear from her of being "rejected" by you because now she KNOWS that u DO dig her too.
try it out and let me know how it goes...
Goodluck.
Laterz...
Its worked like a dream for me, so i thought i'd share, but if you dont think that its good advise, then u are entitled to your opinion, but all i can say, is that it WORKES and its gotten MANY MANY chix to "confess" their feelings for me. ( I'm not saying that u must tell her that u like her etc, just hint to her that u like her)
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well if you are worried about "putting her on the spot, then sms (text) her saying that, so that she will have time to think about it etc... i never said that u needed to say this to her in person.
If you were being sarcastic, then here are a few ways that u can hint to her that u like her:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.