This is more in line with what I was trying to say in an earlier post. Context matters here. If there’s no initial interest or desire from her side, she won’t feel the need to qualify herself to you. In that case, the “listening” dynamic won’t work. Sometimes, she may also not want to talk much for other reasons. And even if she does talk, but that base interest isn’t there, you’re just setting yourself up to become an emotional tampon or another girlfriend in the friend zone.
Alternatively, if you’re not actively doing something to build her interest and desire within the percentages mentioned, you’re not moving forward. Men are the visual creatures, but women’s weakness is language and words. If you can’t communicate, you won’t get far. In my country, we call it “sweetening her ear,” and women can tell who the real players are by the way a man talks to them.
Lastly, I’m not sure this really increases her emotional investment the way OP suggests. What actually builds investment is when she proves herself to you (driving you around in an emergency, going on a mission to get you food), doing things out of the social norm (kissing in front of your friends while they have no idea about the affair, sneaking out of a family event just to meet you, doing something taboo such as hooking up somewhere public where you might get caught), or even going through fights and making up. These are the moments that stick and actually build her emotional connection.
